I was conservative over the years. I am now realizing the reality. When we lived independently, we were the masters of our family. Once we decided to join the children, there should be a sea change in our attitude so that we lead a happy life. We must know how to swim with the tide. We should go along with our children.
The rules, regulations, rituals, manners, etiquette, discipline etc followed in olden days are no longer relevant now. The main aspect is love and love alone that matters. For eg. a son sitting before a father with his legs crossed was considered to be disrespectful in those days. Now it is not so. If a father finds fault with him then he will only be unhappy.
Most of the parents expect their children to take care of them as they took care of them for 25 years. True. But if that point is to be accepted, we should also behave in the same way as they behaved when they were children. Also remember, when they were children, we punished them for any wrongdoings. Who will punish us for our mistakes when we are with them now.
The main aspect that leads to our unhappiness is expectations. We have preconceived notions that our children should behave or act in the way we expect them. If they do not behave as we expect, then we are unhappy. If we refrain from expecting anything from anybody, life will be enjoyable. Giving too much importance to parenthood is of no avail.
The first aspect that should matter to the old people is to see whether their children really love them wholeheartedly. The next aspect is to see whether they have good character free from all vices. A husband and wife are independent and are inseparable. We should realize that even the parents are less important before a wife or husband.
We must mentally lead an independent life even though we are with our children. We have joined them because we are physically incapable of living independently. In that case, we must only surrender and should not fight. If not, our condition will become worse and no one will be ready to take care of us. Love them unconditionally and we will definitely be happy.
The rules, regulations, rituals, manners, etiquette, discipline etc followed in olden days are no longer relevant now. The main aspect is love and love alone that matters. For eg. a son sitting before a father with his legs crossed was considered to be disrespectful in those days. Now it is not so. If a father finds fault with him then he will only be unhappy.
Most of the parents expect their children to take care of them as they took care of them for 25 years. True. But if that point is to be accepted, we should also behave in the same way as they behaved when they were children. Also remember, when they were children, we punished them for any wrongdoings. Who will punish us for our mistakes when we are with them now.
The main aspect that leads to our unhappiness is expectations. We have preconceived notions that our children should behave or act in the way we expect them. If they do not behave as we expect, then we are unhappy. If we refrain from expecting anything from anybody, life will be enjoyable. Giving too much importance to parenthood is of no avail.
The first aspect that should matter to the old people is to see whether their children really love them wholeheartedly. The next aspect is to see whether they have good character free from all vices. A husband and wife are independent and are inseparable. We should realize that even the parents are less important before a wife or husband.
We must mentally lead an independent life even though we are with our children. We have joined them because we are physically incapable of living independently. In that case, we must only surrender and should not fight. If not, our condition will become worse and no one will be ready to take care of us. Love them unconditionally and we will definitely be happy.
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