RANDOM THOUGHTS 271 TO 285

271. The child breathes, cries, and smiles on its own. It does not require anyone for its existence. But people believe it is their child.

272. Virtuous deeds (Punya Karmas) should be performed by a particular part of the body to remove the wrong deeds caused by that part.

273. This universe and the complex manner in which it functions, indicate that a Great Wisdom has created it and also sustains it.

274. Man cannot create even a blade of grass. We will be guilty of ingratitude if we do not offer first to God whatever we eat or wear.

275. It is only after knowing the proper direction, we should follow a path. Otherwise, we may not be able to reach our destination.

276. One should not be proud of the little things he knows. He should be ashamed of the ocean of things he does not know. Hence shun arrogance.

277. One can be fortunate in many ways. But there is nothing that makes him more fortunate than the opportunity of serving others.

278. When you are cheated, the credit goes to him and the fault falls on you. He is able to cheat due to your vulnerability. Be strong.

279. The very moment her children start earning some money, the mother ignores her husband and care for her children and grandchildren.

280. There are two ways of worshiping the Lord. Chanting His names repeatedly and meditating on His form. They are called 'nama-rupa'.

281. Old age homes are mushrooming nowadays. Many parents who are unable to adjust with their children prefer it. It is not a paradise.

282. Gossiping is the worst habit. It is simply a waste of time and energy. Indians are experts and they cannot live without gossiping.

283. Children going to overseas for employment is common. Parents should be willing to settle with them. WHERE RAMA LIVES IT IS AYODHI.

284. When parents live with their son, it is quite natural to have misunderstood.Both should ignore it and carry on for their unity.

285. We must have disinterested love for any individual, This love will permeate us, inspire our inner being, and we will embrace all.

சின்ன சின்ன சமையல் டிப்ஸ். 1 TO 15

1. தயிர் புளித்துவிடும் என்ற நிலை வருகிறபோது அதில் ஒரு துண்டு தேங்காயைப் போட்டு வையுங்கள். தயிர் புளிக்காது.

2. கீரையை வேகவிடும்போது சிறிது எண்ணெய அதனுடன் சேர்த்து வேக வைத்தால் கீரை பசுமையாக ருசியாக இருக்கும்.

3. பிரியாணி போன்ற மசாலா கலந்த அரிசி உணவுகளை செய்யும்போது, உணவு அடிப்பிடித்து விட்டால் அதன்மீது ஒரு பிரெட் துண்டினை வையுங்கள், தீய்ந்த வாசனை காணாமல் போய்விடும்.

4. பிஸ்கட்டுகளை டப்பாக்களில் அடைத்து வைக்கும் போது, டப்பாவிற்குள் டிஷ்யூ 🗞பேப்பரை வைத்துவிட்டால், பிஸ்கட்டுகள் நீண்ட நாட்களுக்கு ஃபிரஷ்ஷாக இருக்கும்.

5. சமைத்த பாத்திரங்களில் இருந்து எண்ணெய் பசையை எளிதாக சுத்தம் செய்ய அதில் ஐஸ் க்யூப் ஒன்றை போடுங்கள்.

6. பூரிக்கு மாவு பிசையும்போது கொஞ்சம் சர்க்கரை சேர்த்துப் பிசைந்தால் பொரித்த பூரி அதிக நேரம் நமத்துப் போகாமல் இருக்கும்.

7. கொத்துமல்லி, புதினா துவையல்கள் அரைக்கும் போது, தண்ணீருக்குப் பதில் சிறிது தயிர் சேர்த்தால் சுவை தரும்.

8. கத்தரிக்காய் கூட்டு, பொரியல் செய்யும்போது கொஞ்சம் கடலை மாவைத் தூவிப் பாருங்கள். கூட்டு, பொரியல் சுவையாக இருக்கும்.

9. ஒரு கண்ணாடிப் பாத்திரத்தில் அரை மூடி எலுமிச்சம் பழத்தைப் பிழிந்து ஓவனில் இரண்டு நிமிடங்கள் வைத்து எடுத்துத் துடைக்க "பளிச்'சென்று இருக்கும்.

10. பீட்ரூட்டை முழுதாக குக்கரில் வேக வைத்துக் கொள்ளுங்கள். பின்பு தோலை எடுத்துவிட்டு துண்டுகளாக்கினால் கறை ஒட்டாமல் இருப்பதோடு, காய் நறுக்குவதற்கும் எளிதாக இருக்கும்.

11. கண்ணாடி பாட்டில் துர்நாற்றம் வீசுகிறதா? கொஞ்சம் கடுகைப் போட்டு வெந்நீர் ஊற்றி சிறிது நேரம் கழித்துக் கழுவுங்கள். துர்நாற்றம் போய்விடும்.

12. வடைக்கு அரைக்கும்போது மாவில் தண்ணீர் அதிகமாகிவிட்டால் ஒரு தேக்கரண்டி நெய் விட்டால் மாவு இறுகிவிடும்.

13. கிரைண்டரில் உளுந்தம் பருப்பு பாதி மசிந்ததும் ஏழெட்டு ஐஸ் க்யூப்களைப் போட்டு அரையுங்கள். மாவும் அதிகம் கிடைக்கும். இட்லியும் பூப்போல மெத்தென்றிருக்கும்.

14. மோர் மிளகாய் தயாரிக்கும்போது அத்துடன் பாகற்காய்களையும் வில்லைகளாக அரிந்து போட்டு வற்றலாக்கலாம். பாகல் வற்றல் காரமுடனும், மிளகாய் சிறு கசப்புடன் சுவை மாறி ருசியாக இருக்கும்.

15. அரிசி குருணையில் உப்புமா செய்தால், குருணை பாதி வெந்து கொண்டிருக்கும்போது, சம அளவு வறுத்த சேமியாவைக் கொட்டி வெந்ததும் இறக்கி வைத்து, அரைமூடி எலுமிச்சம்பழம் பிழியவும். இந்த டூ-இன்-ஒன் உப்புமா, புதுமையான சுவையோடு இருக்கும்.

ராகுவும், கேதுவும்

நவகிரஹம் ஒன்பது உள்ளது. சூரியன், சந்திரன், அங்காரகன், புதன் குரு, சுக்கிரன், சனி, ராகு, கேது. ஆனால் வாரம் ஏழு நாட்களே உள்ளது. ஞாயிறு, திங்கள், செவ்வாய், புதன், வியாழன், வெள்ளி, சனி. மற்ற இரண்டு கிரஹங்களுக்கும் கிழமை கிடையாதா? 

பகவான் தேவர்களுக்கும், கிரஹங்களுக்கும் பாற்கடலை கடைந்து அமுதத்தை பகிர்ந்து அளிக்கும் போது இடையில் புகுந்த அரக்கன் அதை பெற, சந்திரன் அதை காட்டி கொடுக்க, பகவான் அசுரன் தலையை துண்டித்து விட, அமுதம் பெற்ற அவனுக்கு அழிவு இல்லாததால், அவர்களை இரண்டு கிரஹமாக ஆக்கி இராகு, கேது எனப்பெயர் வைத்து அவர்களுக்கு உரியதாக ராகுகாலம், குளிகைகாலம் என இரண்டு காலத்தை கொடுத்துள்ளார்.

மனிதர்கள் இந்த இராகு காலத்தில் எந்த வேலையைச்செய்தாலும், அது சிரமத்தின் பேரில் தான் நடைபெறும். நற்காரியங்கள் கூடுமானவரை செய்யக்கூடாது. அதேபோல் குளிகனில் கெட்ட காரியங்கள், அபர காரியங்கள் செய்யக்கூடாது எனக்கூறி அருளினார்.

வாரத்துக்கு நாள் ஏழு என ஏழு கிரகஹங்களுக்கும் ஒன்றாக பகவான் உண்டாக்கி, ஒவ்வொரு நாளுக்கும் இருபத்தினான்கு மணி நேரம் என ஏற்படுத்தி நடத்திவரும் போது இடையில் இரு கிரஹங்கள் வருவதால் என்ன செய்ய என யோசித்த பகவான், அனைத்து கிரஹங்களுக்கும் வேலை நேரம் சமமாக இருக்கவேண்டும் அதே நேரம் வார நாட்களையும் கூடுதலாக வருமாறு செய்ய கூடாது என்ற எண்ணத்தில், ஏழு
கிரஹங்களையும் அழைத்து அவர்கள் ஒவ்வொருவர் நேரத்திலும் மூன்று மணிநேரத்தை எடுத்துக்கொண்டார்.

இருபத்திநான்கு மணி நேரம். அதில் மூணு மணி நேரத்தை பகவானுக்கு கொடுத்தது போக மீதி உள்ளது இருபத்தொரு மணி நேரம்.

ஒரு நாளைக்கு மூணு மணி நேரம் மாதிரி ஏழு நாட்களுக்கும் எடுத்தால் இருபத்தொரு மணி நேரம்.

இதைத்தான் தன்னால் தலை துண்டிக்கப்பட்டு உடலால் ஒரு கிரஹமாகவும், தலையால் ஒரு கிரஹமாகவும் ஆன ராகு கேதுவுக்கு பிரித்துக்கொடுத்தார்.

ஒவ்வொரு கிழமையிலும் ராகு காலமாக ஒன்றரை மணி நேரமும் குளிகை காலமாக ஒன்றரை மணி நேரமுமாக ஏற்கனவே இருந்த ஏழு நாட்களையும் இருபத்தி நான்கு மணி நேரத்தையும் சமமாக பகிர்ந்தார்.

ராகுவும், கேதுவும் ஒரே உடலின் இரண்டு அங்கம் ஆனதால், அந்த இருபத்தொரு மணி நேரத்தை இரண்டாக பிரித்து ஆளுக்கு பத்தரை மணிநேரம் அதாவது ஒவ்வொரு நாளிலும். ஒன்றரை மணி நேரம் ஏழு நாட்களில் ஏழு பெருக்கல் ஒன்றரை அதாவது பத்தரை மணிநேரமாக கொடுத்துள்ளார்.

பகவான் நல்லவர்களை அரவனைப்பதும், துஷ்டனுக்கு சந்தர்பம் கொடுத்து திருத்தவும், சில சோதனைகளை செய்வான். அப்போதும் செய்பவன் அவனே என அவனிடம் நாம் சரணடைந்து விட்டால் போதும் அவன் நம்மை ஆட்கொண்டுவிடுவான்.

A LETTER FROM FATHER TO SON

Pandit Late Sri. Jawaharlal Nehru's letters to his daughter, when he was in prison, were famous. They were published under the caption "Letters from father to daughter". 

I am not so famous like him. But I am also a father. I also write letters to my children. This letter was written by me from Chennai on 26th June 2006 to my son at Hyderabad when he was 26. It is self-explanatory.

My dear son,

After long deliberations, I am writing this letter to you. Everyone has to live his life. No one can escape. No outside guidance will help. He is drawn towards his fate. However, as a father, I have some duty towards you. I will not tell you what to do and what not. I can only guide you. You have to make the decision, lead your life and face the consequences. You have passed your boyhood and you have become an adult, educated, employed making your own money. 

You are now getting ready to be married which is the second stage in everyone's life. The third stage comes when you retire. So, for the second stage which is tougher than the first stage, one has to be mentally, physically and emotionally ready to lead a peaceful and harmonious life. Happiness is not anywhere but it is within you. It depends on how you look at it, how you take it and what your attitude is. 

Coming back to the subject, you have to get ready for married life. Though I am confident you know a good part of it, I feel I must tell you something important. The girl, you are going to choose [not us] may be rich/poor, beautiful/normal, educated/not educated, city/rural, employed/unemployed, and emotional/intellectual. A rich, beautiful, educated and employed girl may not prefer us. You will have to choose the right girl suitable for you.

A person who does not know his weaknesses is not strong enough to face life. We desire so many things but we get only what we deserve. So if a person has the right attitude, to accept what comes in as his destiny, then he lives peacefully. I do not recommend anyone for you. You have to decide. An employed girl can help in building up assets. There are many plus and minus with employed as well as unemployed girls. Now girls are well educated and well employed. They prefer boys according to their education and employment. They are only willing to marry boys who will suit their requirement and they are not willing to adjust to suit other's needs. 

Your life is going to be much more difficult than mine for various reasons. Hence I am worried about you. Traditional girls who do not go for jobs, who are interested in household work, to look after parents, husband and children are rare. You need the help of the parent or in-laws to send the girl for a job. No girl would prefer to leave a job after 2 or 3 years after tasting the pleasures of it. 

The parents are already tired of their living and they do not have the strength to take care of the children's family. That was the reason why they married unemployed girls in their life. We are planning to let you [both] have an independent life so that you have the freedom and good understanding. We know when to come and join you. Therefore, calmly weigh all the pros and consequences and take a wise decision.

Wishing you the best in your life.
Yours loving father,
N.B. In my opinion, a good looking, graduate, unemployed, middle class girl from the rural may be suitable for you.

LOOKING FOR A BLACK CAT IN THE DARK

Funny incidents happen in our day to day life and we should not take them seriously. We must enjoy and also treat them as a lesson for our future guidance. Here is an incident that took place in my life in 2004.

Myself and my wife were living in our house in Chennai.  Our daughter was in US and son in Hyderabad. My daughter was married with two kids and my son was yet to be married. He was 24 and I was on the lookout for an alliance for him.

One day, at about 10 AM, I was reading the newspaper in the lawn and was waiting for the call from my wife for morning meals. Being a Sunday, I was going through the matrimonial column of the paper.

At that time, a cream colour Premier Padmini was parked in front of my house. A middle-aged man and a lady got down from the car and inquired telling my name. I invited them to come inside.

They were taken to the hall and seated on the sofa. The lady gave my wife jasmine flowers and a sweet packet. They were served with snacks, biscuits, and coffee. While the man was silent, the lady started talking. 

She said they could get the horoscope of my son from TTD temple at T.Nagar where I had registered it. They had compared it with the horoscope of their daughter and found to be matching and hence the visit.

Their native place was Kerala but settled in Chennai for more than 50 years. They had a house at Virungampakkam and their daughter was their only child. She was a software engineer, working in Infosys, drawing a good salary.

She casually went near the fridge to take some water and accidentally found the photo of our son kept on the fridge. She inquired whether it was our son. When I said yes, she replied that she liked my son and our family. 

She also gave me the horoscope and a photo of their daughter. She further said, being the only daughter, they would conduct the wedding on a grand scale and that all their property would only go to her.

The girl was reasonably good looking though slightly bulky. We were not very particular about the looks. It was for our son to decide as he was going to marry. We were firm on this point and never wanted to compel him.

I told the lady that I would soon send the photo to my son on Email. It was for him to decide as he was going to marry. We did not wish to interfere with his decision. I was only doing a postman's job. As soon as I got a reply, I would inform them.

After they left the place, I went to the nearby Internet center and sent the photo to our son. After an hour, there was a phone call from him. I took the phone but he only wanted to talk to his mother. He was more close to the mother.

Their conversation did not last long. I could see my wife was not happy after the talk. I patiently waited for my wife to tell me what he had said. Our son had asked her whether the girl was for him or for me? We both had a hearty laugh.

IT IS MADDING CROWD

Recently, there was a tragedy involving the crowd in a temple at Kanchipuram. Such incidents are not rare in our country. Neither the people nor the Govt is able to understand the gravity of the situation and take remedial measures to avoid such incidents.

The purpose of the temples is different. Many people do not know exactly. If people misuse it, they are only responsible. People do not think about God when they are happy. They visit temples only when they suffer. More the problems for them, more the crowd in the temples.

No one thinks of the spread of communicable diseases. eg pulmonary tuberculosis, infections that could kill many immunocompromised People. People must be made aware of this. Sufficient precaution must be taken by the authorities and social welfare organizations to protect the people.

Generally, most of the crowd in temples have no reason. Some are superstitious, some are addicted to being seen as methodical, meticulous and knowledgeable in performing rituals. This gives a euphoria and ego tickling. That is the reason for the crowd. People may have other purposes unrelated to God 

I am seeing this crowd behavior for the past 60 years. In 1960, when I was studying in Tiruchy I used to walk along the road where RAJA theatre was situated. There was a narrow entry like a hole to go through a narrow lane to reach the ticket counter for 63 paise. 

It was not even wide enough for a slim person to enter. You have a huge crowd on the opening day of an MGR movie. Say, AAYIRATHIL ORUVAN. You will be surprised to see the person standing far off literally walking over the heads of people to reach the entry. 

People celebrated their success in getting the ticket after their shirts were torn, dhothies missing and sweat flowing over their faces and body. We are brought up like that. What to do? We will never change. MGR was simply happy that his movie ran for weeks with houseful shows.

This is the attitude of the people. We have no patience, no discipline. People must see the behavior of people in the US. If people are not patient and well disciplined to follow the rules and queue system, why do they go to a crowded place? For that, education and removing superstitious belief are the need of the hour. MAY GOD BLESS THIS COUNTRY.

THESE HORRIBLE DOCTORS

Last night, I was traveling in 1 class of an aircraft. I soon came to understand that the middle-aged person sitting by the window was a collector and the portly person in the middle seat was a minister. My two neighbors seemed to know each other. The minister was wearing a lot of jewelry. On his right wrist were a bracelet and a Rudraksha on his neck.

They had no idea who I was. After the preliminaries with his neighbor, the minister inquired 

“When are you likely to be promoted as a secretary? "

The IAS replied, “By January 2020 sir if everything goes well.” 

“And when will you be eligible for the post of Chief Secretary ?” 

“It will not be sir as I am a conferred IAS” 

“Oh!” the minister exclaimed. “I was told that the regular IAS fellows look down upon the conferred ones.” 

“True sir. They do not involve us in anything. We will not be in their WhatsApp group either. Most of the direct recruit IAS fellows are from the north, and they keep to themselves and keep us out.”

The airplane started rolling, and the collector's telephone rang, and as he was replying, an air hostess leaned over me and signaled him politely to put his phone off. “No sooner does a phone ring in an airplane, these people appear from nowhere." The minister said sarcastically. And as the plane lifted off, the minister’s phone rang. He fumbled a little to silence it. He neither switched it off nor put it in airplane mode.

A while later, I was served steaming Maggie noodles, and I had started to savor them.“You know!”, the minister was telling the IAS, “The tasty powder that comes with these noodles will cause colon cancer when mixed in boiling water, and the people do not know this. It is a big evil plan by developed countries like America and China to poison developing countries and cause cancer.”

Their conversation then turned towards doctors and medicine. “You know, these doctors give some pill to cure a liver condition knowing fully well that in due course the drug will cause kidney damage. Then the liver patient will become a kidney patient and will continue to be their patient forever" The minister continued. “Doctors also give medication for migraine, which, over time, affects the brain and make the patient dumb. This patient continues to visit the same doctor until the patient or the doctor dies. This is the common trick doctors play.”

I felt a little uncomfortable in my seat but kept my calm and pretended not to listen to their conversation. Now it was the turn of the IAS. “Very true sir. I agree with you. Once I took my 84-year-old father to a big hospital in the middle of the night with severe stomach pain. The chief doctor said, ‘Your father has a mass in the rectum and will require an operation to remove it. Thoroughly confused, I left the place with my father. Then I realized it was due to constipation. For the last one and a half years, my father is passing motion easily to this day.

He continued, “Just a few weeks ago, my brother’s son had consumed some fried mutton and developed abdominal pain. He was taken to a hospital close to his house. The doctors took scans and concluded as appendicitis needing urgent surgery. My brother panicked and then called me. I told him to go to the General hospital. The chief doctor in GH asked him only one question, “Did you eat too many parathas?” and sent him home.

He further said “these doctors ask the local labs to report any biopsy as cancer and start treating patients with very costly cancer drugs, and after the patient has exhausted all his money they told him “Your cancer is cured!” The minister agreed “Yes true. These doctors are big-time commission agents. They get a commission in prescribing blood tests, scans, and drugs. Some doctors make a fortune out of these commissions. Doctor profession is the worst profession and doctors are the worst people” he concluded.

Suddenly, the minister started sweating profusely. He held his chest on the left due to some pain and rested his head over the collector's shoulder. The collector called the air hostess to get some water and a doctor. There was an announcement on the public address system. There was no response as there was no other doctor. The hostess came to me and inquired whether I was a doctor. 

I had to agree as I had given my personal details and they could easily find out from my name on the list. I was in dilemma whether to attend on him or not. My conscience and ethics of my profession persuaded me to attend on him. I did the normal check-ups and found he was having high BP. I gave him medicines to lower his BP and to sleep for a while. I was wondering what most of the politicians and bureaucrats were corrupt but they talked ill about a noble profession due to a few black sheep.

I was helpless and I wanted to counter their statements but realized it would be in vain. This was the opinion of a minister and a bureaucrat on doctors, and I wondered what would be the opinion of an ordinary citizen. If there was a national opinion poll on doctors and their integrity, I could understand what would be the outcome of the polls. Everyone seemed to have a bad experience with doctors, hospitals, and prescriptions.

We spend decades, years, days, and hours together discussing the ways and means of improving patient outcomes, decrease operative morbidity, struggle to bring a multi-organ failure patient back to life.  But people talk ill of doctors. How can we change this public opinion? It looks as though it can get only worse. In days to come, doctors may even hesitate to suggest the right treatment for a patient.

LOVE MARRIAGE VS ARRANGED MARRIAGE

This morning during my walk, I saw a college-going boy and a girl aged about 18, fair and good looking, coming from the opposite direction, carrying shoulder bags, holding their hands and before crossing me, talking, laughing, giggling, fighting, arguing, slapping, and smiling. They are in love. How far it is going to be successful is a question mark. 

Marriage is a very important social institution. ​​The basis for any marriage is love, caring, sharing, adjusting, accepting, accommodating, understanding and tolerating.​ ​​​​​​​It has been scientifically proved that 99.99% of the DNA for all human beings is the same and only 0.01% differs. This 0.01% contributes to all the differences between individuals. ​​

Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing the partner is different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in the case of arranged marriages individuals prefers partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose a partner for marriage. Let’s analyze which one of the two is better.

Love marriage

1. Both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to spend the whole life with each other.

2. The couple is aware of each other’s likes and dislikes. Therefore they will get along well. 

3. While making love, the boys do various things to please the girls but they are different after marriage. 

4. Mostly the lover turns a husband which breaks the heart of the girl. If they continue to be lovers even after marriage, then there will ever be happy. ​

5. The couple is responsible for its choice and onus of the blame in future lies on the couple only and nobody else. 

6. The couple can eradicate social evil like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the independence to make such decisions​.

7. The culture of the extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the couple.

Arranged marriage:

Parents do not consider that their children are matured enough to take an independent decision on marriage. They are unable to digest the fact that their children have taken the decision without even consulting them. So they take it as an insult. Also, they are much worried in case of any eventuality.

1. ​In an arranged marriage, you do not know anything about the spouse and you have no expectation. 

2. You are happy even if you get reasonable satisfaction and you can improve upon it in due course. 

​3. Arranged Marriage is not a contract between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families. 

4. Two families involved in arranged marriages know each other very well and are compatible with each other. 

5. Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated. 

6. The couple is guided by parents experience whereas in love marriage couple is unknown about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.

Conclusion:

Both ways have their merits as well as demerits and marriage is a decision of a lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the marriages, it’s the couple who have to live together for a lifetime. So, the decision to choose a life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately no one can certify the best way for a perfect married life because like life marriages too are full of uncertainties. ​​

According to research, in India arranged marriages are more and love marriages are less for ethical, moral, cultural, traditional, regional, linguistic, communal, economical, and religious reasons. In cosmopolitan and well to do families this concern does not arise due to the money power and the independence of the children.   

DETAILS TAKEN FROM GOOGLE: In fact, today up to 90 percent of marriages in India and 60 percent of all marriages in the world are arranged. Divorce rates in India overall are pegged at about 1.2 percent. In India rates of divorce in love marriages are much higher than in arranged marriages. According to a 2012 study by Statistic Brain, the global divorce rate for arranged marriages was 6 percent — a significantly low number. Compared to the 55 percent of marriages in the world that are arranged, this low statistic shows the success rate of arranged marriages. 

எண்ணமும் செயலும்

ஒருவருடைய செயல் சரியா அல்லது தவறா என்று கண்டு பிடிக்க அவருடைய என்ணத்தையும் செயலையும் பார்க்க வேண்டும். இரண்டில் எண்ணம் மிகவும் முக்கியம்.

1. நல்ல எண்ணத்துடன் கூடிய நல்ல செயல் எப்போதும் சரியானது.

2. நல்ல எண்ணத்துடன் கூடிய தவறான செயலும் சரியானதே.

உ-ம் ;ஒரு பெண்ணின் அருகே ஒரு தேள் வருகிறது. அவளைக் காப்பாற்ற அவள் கையை பற்றி இழுக்கிறாய். செயல் தவறாக இருந்தாலும் எண்ணம் சரியாக இருக்கிறது. அதனால் அந்தச் செயல் சரியானதே.

3. தவறான எண்ணத்துடன் செய்யும் நல்ல செயல் தவறானதே.

உ-ம்: உன்னிடம் மிகவும் அழுக்கான ரூபாய் நோட்டு இருக்கிறது. அதை யாரும் வாங்க மறுக்கிறார்கள். அதை ஒரு பிச்சைக்காரனுக்கு போடுகிறாய். பிச்சை போடுவது நல்ல செயல். ஆனால் எண்ணம் தவறானது. அதனால் அந்த செயலும் தவறானதே.

4. தவறான எண்ணத்துடன் கூடிய தவறான செயல் எப்போதும் தவறானதே.

WHEN I FIRST LANDED AT MADRAS

On a warm sunny morning in June 1967, when I was 22, I landed at Madras.  I just had a set of pant and shirt, a set of dhoti, innerwear, a towel, a shoe and socks, a tie and Rs 50/. At first, I was bewildered at the look of the city. I had come in search of prosperity. There were 14 members in my family including my parents, 3 grandparents and nine children. My last brother was just three then.

I did not even have a place to stay. I did not know where to go. I went to Triplicane where my grandfather had some relatives. But they were not ready to welcome me. I went to T.Nagar, where my elder brother had a colleague. He was also unable to offer me some space sighting family reasons. I started understanding people and the world. 

I stayed in the Mambalam railway station for a day at the courtesy of the station master. I took up a room in the nearby Railway border road for Rs.20/ pm to be shared with 2, with common bath and toilet. I searched for jobs from 8 AM to 8 PM. I went around the city, mostly on foot, entering each and every office requesting for a job. 

I could not afford meals thrice a day as the cash was dwindling. I had to keep a balance of Rs.6 for the return journey to Tiruchy.  Every day, when the meals section was opened at 7 PM in the hotel, I was the first to enter. It was an unlimited meal for Re.1/. I took to my full stomach so that I could manage until the next day at 7 PM. 

At first,  I got a job in an Auditors office as an Article clerk. The salary was 70/ PM. I could have managed with that money and prepared for C.A. But I had to wait for a month to get the salary and I won't be able to send anything to my parents. I worked there only for a few days. With the cash balance coming down, fear engulfed me leading to sleepless nights. 

I could not face the ignominy of going back to Tiruchy jobless. One day, after dinner at 7 PM, while I was walking along Usman Road, I saw a textile shop. I met the proprietor Mr. Harikrishnan and requested him for a job. He was a kind man and a north Indian. He was impressed and appointed me as an accountant. 

I was to look after sales also. The timing was 10 to 1 and 4 to 9. The salary was 300/ PM. Tea in the morning and evening was provided. Knowing my condition, he gave me some advance. From that month onwards, I started sending 100 or 125 PM to my father till 1982 when he asked me to stop. 

It was only a temporary footing. I worked there for a few months. I should get a decent job in a big company. During the lunchtime of 3 hours, I continued my search. I also sent applications through the post. God should have mercy on me. Even now, when I walked along that road, I get fond memories of the past.

திரு ஜெமினி கணேசன் மீது ஒரு பிரியம்

என் தந்தைக்கு சினிமா என்றாலே வேப்பங்காய், வேப்பம்பழம் கூட அல்ல. ஆனால் என் அம்மாவிற்கு சினிமா பிடிக்கும். என் அம்மாவை சந்தோஷப்படுத்துவதற்காக, என் தந்தை எங்களை சிறு வயதில் எப்போதாவது சினிமாவுக்கு அழைத்துச் செல்வார். குடும்பத்துடன் சினிமா பார்ப்பது ஒரு தனி சந்தோஷம்.

அப்படி அவர் முதன்முதலில் எங்களை அழைத்துச் சென்றது திரு ஜெமினி கணேசன் நடித்த கணவனே கண் கண்ட தெய்வம் 1955]. அதன் பிறகு நிறைய நாட்கள் கழித்து மறுபடியும் ஜெமினி கணேசன் நடித்த கற்புக்கரசி [ 1957]. அதன் பிறகு மறுபடியும் ஜெமினி கணேசன் நடித்த மணாளனே மங்கையின் பாக்கியம் [1957].

இப்படி நான் சிறுவயதில் பார்த்த எல்லா திரைப்படங்களும் திரு ஜெமினி கணேசன் நடித்த படங்களாக இருந்தது. அதனால் திரு ஜெமினி கணேசன் மீது ஒரு பிரியம் உண்டு. ஆனால் நான் அவருடைய விசிறி கிடையாது. பைத்தியமாக அவருடைய படங்களைப் பார்த்தது இல்லை. எந்த ஒரு சினிமா நடிகர் மீதும் எனக்கு ஒரு கவர்ச்சி ஏற்பட்டது இல்லை.

அவர் ஒரு அழகான திரைப்பட நடிகர். நன்கு படித்தவர். அழகாக நடிக்கக் கூடியவர். மிகையான நடிப்பு செய்யாதவர். தன்னுடைய கதா பாத்திரத்தை உணர்ந்து நடித்தவர்.. காதல் காட்சிகளில் இயற்கையாக நடித்தவர்.. நகைச்சுவை மற்றும் சோகக் காட்சிகளிலும் சிறப்பாகச் செய்தவர்.

அரசியல் போன்ற விவகாரங்களில் தலையிடாமல் தான் உண்டு தன்னுடைய வேலை உண்டு என்று இருந்தவர்.. தன்னால் முடிந்த அளவு கஷ்டப் படும் மக்களுக்கு உதவி செய்தவர்.. மென்மையான குணம் கொண்டவர். அநாவசியமாக பிரச்சனைகளில் தலை இடாமல் ஒதுங்கி இருந்தவர்.

"எல்லோரும் எனக்கு நண்பர்கள். யாரும் எனக்கு விரோதி இல்லை" என்ற சிறந்த குறிக்கோள் கொண்டவர். முதல் கதாநாயகனாக இருந்தாலும் சரி, இரண்டாவது கதாநாயகனாக இருந்தாலும் சரி எதையும் சமமாகக் கருதும் குணம் கொண்டவர். அவருடைய தனிப்பட்ட வாழ்க்கையைப் பற்றி எனக்குத் தெரியாது.

தமிழக திரைப்பட இயக்குநர்களில் திரு ஸ்ரீதர் ஒரு தனி இடத்தைப் பெற்றவர். எல்லோருக்கும் ஒரு வழிகாட்டியாக இருந்தவர். காதல் உணர்வுகளைப் பல கோணங்களில் அழகாகக் காட்டியவர். ஆரம்ப நாட்களில் அவர் திரு ஜெமினி கணேசனை வைத்து நிறைய படங்களை இயக்கியவர். யாரால் யார் சிறப்படைந்தனர் என்பது ஒரு கேள்விக் குறி.

ஒரு காலகட்டத்தில் திரு ஸ்ரீதர் சொந்தமகத் திரைப் படங்கள் எடுக்கும் போது, செலவைக் குறைக்க புதுமுக நடிகர்களை அறிமுகப் படுத்தினார். அந்த முயற்சியில் அவர் வெற்றியும் அடைந்தார். மற்றவர்களும் அவரைப் பின் பற்றினர். தமிழ் சினிமாவில் ஒரு திருப்புமுனையை ஏற்படுத்தினார்.

அதில் நெஞ்சில் ஓர் ஆலயம் என்ற படம் மிகவும் பாராட்டப் பட்டது. அப்போது திரு ஜெமினி கணேசன் அந்தப் படத்தில் தான் நடிக்கவில்லையே என்று தன்னுடைய வருத்தத்தைத் தெரிவித்திருந்தார். அந்தப் படத்தில் டாக்டர் கதா பாத்திரத்தில் அவர் நடித்து இருந்தால் மிகவும் நன்றாக இருந்திருக்கும் என்பது என் தனிப்பட்ட அபிப்பிராயம்.

அவருடைய திரைப் படங்களை யாரும் நன்றாக இல்லை என்று கூற மாட்டார்கள். அவருடைய திரைப்படங்களில் எனக்கு மிகவும் பிடித்தது 1. கணவனே கண் கண்ட தெய்வம். 2. பெண்ணின் பெருமை. 3. யார் பையன். 4. சுமை தாங்கி. 5. கல்யாணப் பரிசு. 6. பாசமலர். 7. கொஞ்சும் சலங்கை. 8. நான் அவன் இல்லை. 9. புன்னகை. 10. ராமு. உங்களுக்குப் பிடித்தது எது?

RANDOM THOUGHTS 256 TO 270

256. If someone takes up public service, without discharging the duties towards his family, it is ridiculous, hypocrisy and fraudulent.

257. It is human nature to observe only the negative and not the positive. A dark spot is predominantly visible on a white background.

258. Happiness does not lie in evading responsibilities and avoiding problems in life. It is in facing them boldly and solving them intelligently.

259. People waste their time seeing TV and talking on the cellphone. Productivity is lost. One day the Govt may regulate their usage.

260. Countries with Most Cellphone users. 1.China 1.3 Billion. 2.India 1.17 Billion. 3.The United States 327 Million. 4.Brazil 284 Million. 5.Russia 256 Million.

261. In private companies, cellphones are not allowed. To contact anyone, you will have to go through mainline. Do you welcome the idea?

262. All our pains and pleasures are designed by the Lord, with great care and concern, specifically for every individual in this world.

263. If you take it as pleasure then it is a pleasure. If you take it as pain then it is pain. The difference is in your outlook only.

264. The Lord knows very well to what extent you can carry a load. He will give you only that much of load. Nothing more, nothing less.

265. To decide whether an act is good or bad, both action and intention should be considered. Of the two, the intention is important.

266. 1. Any Act, with good intention and good action, is always good. 2. Any Act, with good intention but with bad action is also good.

267. 3. Any Act, with bad intention but with good action, is bad. 4. Any Act, with bad intention and with bad action is always bad.

268. An idle mind is the devil's workshop. If we keep busy with good actions, evil thoughts will never come to us and we will become pure.

269. To lead a perfect life, we must get rid off evil thoughts. We must be engaged in developing good thoughts and doing good deeds.

270. Doing good-deeds keeps us constantly engaged in thinking about God and thereby we earn His grace all the time. Evil thoughts will vanish.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 241 TO 255

241. People do not think about God when they are happy. They pray only when they suffer. More the problems for them, more the crowd in the temples.

242. A lie does not become truth, a wrong does not become right, and evil does not become good just because it is accepted by the majority.

243.  Preservatives are added to the food items to prolong its shelf life. Otherwise, it will get contaminated. Beware, they may be allergens to your body.

244. An allergen is a usually harmless substance capable of triggering a response that starts in the immune system and results in an allergic reaction. 

245. The immune system responds by releasing chemicals that typically cause symptoms in the nose, throat, eyes, ears, skin or roof of the mouth.

246. If you have an allergy to a substance, your immune system identifies the substance as an invader or allergen and tries to eliminate it.

247. In addition to pollen, other common allergens include dust mites, animal dander, mold, medications, insect venoms, and various foods.

248. Attitude is important. To say the bottle is half full is a positive attitude. To say the bottle is half empty is a negative attitude.

249. It is advisable that the son should not stay with his parents after marriage. But the parents can stay with their son after retirement.

250. Who runs the show is important. In father's house, the son and DIL may find the going tough. In the son's house the parents may find the going easy.

251. Where there is faith, there is love. Where there is love, there is peace. Where there is peace, there is no violence. Where there is no violence, there is God.

252. Where there is righteousness in the heart, there is beauty in the character. Where there is beauty in the character, there is harmony in the home. 

253. Where there is harmony in the home, there is order in the Nation. Where there is order in the Nation there is peace in the world.

254. Spiritual discipline is rigorous. If we really want to fulfill the purpose of life, we must follow spiritual discipline. Then we will have no fear.

255. WRITING ENTIRELY IN BLOCK CAPITALS IS SHOUTING AND IT IS RUDE. So better not to do it, unless you really want to shout at someone.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 226 TO 240

226. It is not easy to win a person. Only by sustained effort, this can be achieved. Patience and perseverance are the need of the hour.

227. Porcupine is a large rodent with defensive spines or quills on its body and tail. some people are like that. More you hug, more the pain.

228. Dharma is the root of our religious tree. Bhakti and Jnana are its flowers and fruits. It is our duty to preserve the root from getting dry.

229. I agree that once Britishers looted our country but also contributed. Now our own politicians are looting without any contribution.

230. The black money stashed outside our country runs to crores. Even if it is legalized people will not surrender. Our country will become bankrupt.

231. Hygiene, cleanliness, and health are important. One should not hesitate to do dirty works in his own home. Then, who else will do?

232. Just because there are a few black sheep in society, the shepherd should leave the flock. He should safely guide the rest of them.

233. Metals are in Siddha and Ayurveda medicines. Steroids, anti-biotic and pain killers are in Allopathy medicines. All are harmful to the human body.

233. Indigestion and constipation produce toxins in the body which cause all ailments. If you can take care of these two aspects, you will be healthy.

234. The one who proclaims that he knows everything gets more work. The one who pretends that he does not know anything gets no work. But the pay is the same.

235. Women follow Hindu culture but do not talk about it. Men do not follow but talk about it. Because they fear the women would embrace the western culture.

236. One is respected for both age and position. If one is old, his position is not considered. If one has position, his age is not considered.

237. One must be very careful with people who talk with sugar-coated words. But one can totally believe people who call a spade a spade.

238. A dancer balancing a pot on her head never forgets the pot. Similarly, we should not forget the purpose of life while engaged in activities.

239. To live harmoniously together we have to follow only one principle. NEVER DISCUSS, DEBATE, DISPUTE OR DENOUNCE OTHER'S BELIEF.

240. When your dreams are big, your efforts to achieve those dreams must be bigger than the dreams. Then only you will succeed in life.