VENU BOCHELA A FRIEND INDEED

Hi friends,

In Tamil Sangam Literature, there was a king by name KopperunCholan and a poet Pisirandhaiyar.  The king was fond of poets and their poems. He was so fascinated by the poems of Pisirandhaiyar. Similarly, the poet also was fascinated by the King and his qualities. They both became friends mentally but had never met.

Since his own children raised against him, the king wanted to leave his life, by doing Vadakkiruthal. A platform made of sand was raised in the middle of a river, and the person sat on the platform facing North, and leave his life by starving. The king also wanted to leave his life by that method. At that time, he said his poet friend would also come and join him and ordered to raise another platform for him also. At the last moment, the poet hearing the news came and joined him in leaving the world together. Such was their friendship.

On 18th Nov 2015, my son posted an item on friendship on FaceBook. I commented on it. Seeing my comment, his friend Shri Venu Bochela sent a friend request which I immediately accepted at 5-40 PM. He was a colleague of my son and later he went to a different company for better prospects. From that day onward, we have become friends in the real sense of the term. He is 43 and I am 72 and we have never met. 

Not a single day passed, without having a chat on FaceBook. He gets up at 5 AM. He has his wife, two boys, and parents. He leads a happy and planned life. When you meet in person, you can see the body language. Though we are contacting on the Internet, I could see his body language. He is so polite, friendly, respectful, affectionate, open and without secrets, and pious. I can go on be adding words for his qualities. He has no reservation in telling anything personal to me.

We never had the opportunity of meeting. That day was a distant dream. Meanwhile, he has become more than a son to me. Yesterday, 27th Nov exactly after one year, I was so happy when he informed me that he would be visiting us in the evening at 4 PM. By 3 pm, I was restless and I was looking at the clock every now and then. My wife was mocking at me for my anxiety. Then, finally, his car came and all the four of them arrived.

I went out to meet him near the car. We both hugged each other and I could feel the love and friendship in the hug. His wife was smiling at us hugging each other and we went inside. Though they stayed only for two hours, we had a hearty talk, and his wife also equally participated. His children and my granddaughter were playing together. Actually, it does not look like he has come to my son's house but only to see me.

Then, they left and the vacuum is created. I do not know when I will be meeting him again. I felt as if I missed a son. He and his wife invited us to come to their house and he also said he would come to pick up. Then he hugged me again before leaving. I felt this time it is more intense. 

Venu refers to the oldest musical instrument flute, made of bamboo which Lord Krishna is having with him always. Bochela is his family name and on the Internet, it's meaning is connected to confidence, assertiveness, and creativity.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 541 TO 555

541. Prostrating is sacred and it means to surrender. We should refrain from using disrespectful or offending words towards such a person.

542. Prostrating is an honour extended. One should not wish, where he should prostrate. One should not prostrate, where he should wish.

543. When prostrating before the parents, the forehead should touch their feet. It should be done with due respect, love, and sincerity.

544. Prostration should be done towards East or West. It should not be done towards the North. For ancestors, it is done towards the South.

545. Do you know Levirate marriage is a type of marriage in which the brother of a deceased man is obliged to marry his brother's widow?

546. I remain neutral not because I am confused about whom to select between two good people but because I consider all of them bad.

547. Neutral means an impartial or unbiased country or person. Remember we have a neutral gauge in railways and neutral gear in vehicles.

548. Two people are contesting an election. One is highly corrupt and the other is facing trial for a brutal murder. To whom will you vote?

549. Every citizen should lead a perfect life. He should encourage others to follow suit. He should shun people who do not follow him.

550. I always insist on self-discipline. Once the mind is disciplined, he will become a Gnani and will not worry about what is happening.

551. Once bad people were the minority. Now good people are the minority. Even if a good person wants to do good, he will be eliminated.

552. The quotes by foreign authors are based on their culture. Following the wonderful quotes of our luminaires is more beneficial to us.

553. It is debatable whether children with modern views will find it more difficult to adjust with conservative parents or the reverse.

554. Wisdom means the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment. A man is wise only if he possesses these qualities.

555. Only after falling sick, we come to know that every part of our body is indispensable. We then realize the importance of that part.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 526 TO 540

526. An American couple was walking a cute baby in a stroller. As customary in India, when I tried to touch the baby, I was not allowed.

527. Many Indians, especially children, living in the US suffer from infection when they visit India. So they are not willing to visit.

528. I am an Indian. I am also a patriot. That does not mean we should not appreciate what is good in other countries for our knowledge. 

529. Though infrastructure and lifestyle have improved, the attitude of the people should change and India should regain its lost glory.

530. How wonderful is Garuda's reply to the snake, on Lord Shiva's neck, that everyone will be happy if he stays in the proper place.

531. Dr.Robin Cook M.D. has written more than 30 interesting noels based on Medicine. I suggest, to my doctor friends to read them.

532. If you have the Netflix connection, I  suggest you see the Korean movie 'TRAIN TO BUSAN'. Don't blame me later for not suggesting.

533. I do not possess nor I know how to use any of the modern apps in my day to day life. I am very happy to follow the old lifestyle.

534. An epidemic is the occurrence of an infectious disease in a place at a given time.Pandemic is an epidemic of worldwide proportion.

535. Luxury in life is the result of greediness and it will never end. Peace is the result of a contented mind and there is no greed.

536. Talents differ from person to person. None is superior or inferior in this world. All beings serve as spokes in the wheel of life.

537. Habit means a regular practice, both good and bad, which is hard to leave. It becomes a passion and later it becomes an obsession.

538. We claim to be great patriots. Whether any industrial product we use is manufactured with Indian technology? Can you name anyone?

539. How nice it would be if every soul in a family is highly religious performing their daily rituals from dawn to dusk without fail.

540. Do not take the wrong side. Neutrality helps righteousness, never the corrupt. Silence encourages mental peace, never the agitated

THE PLUMBER

A few years back, in 2016, I was living in Chennai. One day at about 3 pm, I noticed the pipeline in my neighbour's house was leaking. It might be due to a crack in the outlet PVC pipe from the water tank. The entire water in the tank would go as a waste if the crack was not closed immediately.

The tenant in the house was new to that place. He had gone to the office and his child to the school. His wife was alone in the house. I went and told her about the leak and asked her to arrange for a plumber to arrest the leak as early as possible. She immediately telephoned her husband and explained to him the situation.

Her husband was a nice man and he was friendly with me. He asked his wife to hand over the phone to me. He then told me, since they were new to the place, they did not know any plumber. He then requested me to arrange for someone if I knew anyone. I gave him the phone number of a plumber who had worked at my house sometime back.

After an hour, a young man clad in jeans and a T-shirt came on a Suzuki motorcycle and started attending to the leak. I gave him a ladder to reach the leaking spot. His face was familiar to me. Out of curiosity, I observed, how he was arresting the leak, through the window from my house.

He cut the pipe at the leaking spot, inserted a coupling which he already had, and sealed both ends with a sealing solution. Hardly it took him ten minutes to finish the job. He got his wages from the housewife and when he came to return the ladder to me, I asked him how much he charged. He said Rs.800/

When I asked him was it fair enough for him to demand such a high rate for a simple job, you know what he replied? "Sir I am also a human being. I also have a family to support. I also wish to live like others. I have to maintain a two-wheeler to attend on-call. What can I do" Is his stand justifiable?

சூத்ரதாரி ஸ்ரீகிருஷ்ணர்

பகவான் ஸ்ரீகிருஷ்ணரின் குருஷேத்திர போர் தந்திரங்களில், விதுரரை போரில் ஈடுபடாமல் காத்ததும் ஒன்று. யார் இந்த விதுரர்?

விதுரர், திருதராஷ்டிரருக்கும், பாண்டுவுக்கும் ஒன்றுவிட்ட சகோதரன். மகாநீதிமான், தருமத்திலிருந்து சிறிதளவும் வழுவாதவர். அவர் மகாவீரர்கூட. அவருடைய வில் அவர் கையில் இருக்கும்வரை அவரை யாரும் வீழ்த்த முடியாது என்பதும் பிரசித்தமான விஷயம்.

இந்த விதுரருடைய பூர்வாசிரமக் கதை என்ன?

மாண்டவ்யர் என்பவர் ஒரு பெரிய ரிஷி. ஒரு நாள், சில திருடர்கள் அவர் முன் அரண்மனையிலிருந்து களவாடிய பொருள்களைப் போட்டுவிட்டு அவருடைய ஆசிரமத்தில் ஒளிந்துகொண்டனர். அரசருடைய ஆட்கள் அங்கு வந்து அவர் சமாதியில் பேசாமல் இருப்பதைப் பார்த்து அவர் பாசாங்கு செய்வதாக நினைத்து அவரையும் மற்ற திருடர்களையும், களவு சாமான்களுடன் அரண்மனைக்கு இழுத்துச் சென்றார்கள்.

அரசனுக்குத் தகவல் சொன்னார்கள். அரசனும் தீர விசாரிக்காமலேயே யாவரையும் கழுமரத்தில் ஏற்றச் சொல்லிவிட்டான். எல்லாத் திருடர்களும் இறந்தனர். ஆனால் மாண்டவ்யரோ தன் யோக பலத்தினால் உயிருடன் இருந்தார். அரசன் இதைக் கேள்விப்பட்டு உடனே அவரை விடுவிக்கச் சொன்னான். 

காவலாளர்களால் அவரை கழுமரத்திலிருந்து விடுவிக்க முடியவில்லை. அதனால் தலைக்கு மேலேயும் ஆசனத்துக்கு கீழேயும் இருந்த பகுதியை வெட்டி எடுத்தனர். அதனாலேயே அவருக்கு ஆணி மாண்டவ்யர் என்று பெயர் வந்தது.

மாண்டவ்யர் அரசனிடம் கோபப்படாமல் நேரே எமதர்மராஜனிடன் சென்று, “எனக்கேன் இப்படி ஒரு தண்டனை? நான் என்ன பாபம் செய்தேன்?” என்று கேட்டார். எமன் சொன்னார், “ரிஷியே, நீர் சின்ன வயதில் ஈக்களைக் கொன்று ஒரு குச்சியில் கோத்து விளையாடுவீர். நீர் செய்த ஜீவ இம்சைக்குத்தான் இந்த தண்டனை” என்றார்.

ரிஷிக்கு மகா கோபம் வந்துவிட்டது. “தர்மராஜரே, நீர் தருமத்தின் காவலர். உமக்குத் தெரியாதா? தண்டனை கொடுக்கும் முன் குற்றவாளியின் வயது, அவனுடைய அறிவுத்திறன் அறிந்து குற்றத்திற்கு ஏற்ற தண்டனையைக் கொடுக்க வேண்டும் என்பது நியதி.

நான் செய்தது அறியாப் பருவத்தில். என் குற்றத்திற்கு நீர் அளித்தது பெரிய தண்டனை. நீர் தருமத்திலிருந்து தவறிவிட்டீர். இதோ நான் உமக்கு ஒரு சாபமிடுகிறேன். நீர் பூலோகத்தில் மானிடனாகப் பிறந்து நான் பட்ட அவமானத்தை விட நூறு மடங்கு அவமானத்தை அடைவீர்” என்று சாபமிட்டார்.

அந்த சாபத்தின் பாதிப்பு தான், எமதர்மராஜர் விதுரராகப் பிறந்தது. இப்போது, மறுபடியும் கதைக்கு வருவோம்.

விதுரர் அப்பழுக்கில்லாதவர். மற்ற பெரியவர்கள் செய்த பிழையை அவர் செய்யவில்லை. துணிந்து, துரியோதனனையும் அவன் சகோதரர்களையும் கண்டித்து திரெளபதிக்காக வாதாடினார். அதனால் தருமம் தவறாத அவரை எப்படி யுத்தத்தில் சாகடிக்க முடியும். மேலும் பாண்டவர்கள் பக்கத்தில் தரும புத்திரர் (எமனின் மகன்) எதிர்பக்கம், அவர் தந்தை-தர்மராஜர் – சமநிலை சரியாக வராதே?

விதுரர், கெளரவர்கள் பக்கம் நின்று போரிட்டால் பாண்டவர்கள் வெற்றி பெறுவது நிச்சயம் இல்லை. மகாபாரதப் போரின் முடிவே வேறே மாதிரி இருக்க வாய்ப்பு உண்டு. அதனால் எல்லோரையும்விட மிக முக்கயமான நபர், விதுரர் தான். அவர் கெளரவர்களுக்காக நிச்சயம் போராடக் கூடாது. எப்படித் தடுப்பது?

பாரதப் போரைத் தடுக்க, ஸ்ரீகிருஷணர் பாண்டவர்களுக்காகத் தூது சென்றான். ஸ்ரீகிருஷ்ணர் யார் வீட்டில் தங்குவார் என்ற கேள்வி பிறந்தது. கிருஷ்ணரோ, “நான் தூதுவன்.  நான் விதுரர் வீட்டுக்குச் சென்று என் பொழுதைக் கழிக்கிறேன்” என்றார். விதுரருக்கு மகா சந்தோஷம். தன் பிரியமான கண்ணன் தன் விருந்தினராக வருவதைப் பெரும் பாக்கியமாகக் கருதினார். 

கண்ணன் சென்ற பின் துரியோதனன் சபையில் எல்லோரும் அவனிடம் கெஞ்சி, கண்ணன் பேச்சைக் கேட்டு யுத்தத்தை தவிர்க்க வேண்டும் என்று வாதாடினார்கள். விதுரர் குரல் ஓங்கி ஒலித்தது. ஏற்கனவே துரியோதனனுக்கு விதுரர்மேல் கோபம். அவர் பாண்டவர்கள் கட்சி என்று ஒரு நினைப்பு. போதாக்குறைக்கு விதுரர் பாண்டவ தூதரான கண்ணனைத் தன் வீட்டில் உபசரணைசெய்தது. விதுரர் பேச்சைக் கேட்டவுடன், துரியோதனனுக்குக் கோபம் வந்தது.

என்ன பேசுகிறோம் என்ற நினைப்பில்லாமல் நாக்கில் நரம்பின்றி விதுரரை அவமானப்படுத்திப் பேசினான். குறிப்பாக, அவரை ‘தாசி புத்திரன்’ என்று திட்டித்தீர்த்தான். (மாண்டவ்யர் சாபம் முற்றிலும் பலித்துவிட்டது)

விதுரருக்கு கோபம், வருத்தம் சபையோர்கள் நடுங்க சபதமிட்டார். “எனக்கு இங்கே இனிமேல் வேலையில்லை. அழிவு காலம் நெருங்கிகொண்டிருக்கிறது. என்னை அவமானப்படுத்திய இந்த துரியோதனனுக்காக நான் என் வில்லை எடுத்துப் போராட மாட்டேன். அதே சமயம் நான் பாண்டவர்கள் பக்கமும் செல்ல மாட்டேன்” என்று சொல்லித் தன்னுடைய வில்லை இரண்டாக உடைத்துவிட்டுச் சபையிலிருந்து வெளியேறினார். .

கண்ணன், விதுரர் வீட்டில் தங்காமல் இருந்தால், விதுரர் வில்லை உடைத்து வெளியேறியிருப்பாரா? துரியோதனனுக்காகப் போராட வேண்டிய ஒரு கட்டாயம் அவருக்கு வந்திருக்கும் அல்லவா?அவரை வெல்ல, பாண்டவர்கள் கட்சியில் யாராவது இருக்கிறார்களா? பாண்டவர்களுக்கு வெற்றி கிடைத்திருக்குமா?

இதுதான் கண்ணனுடைய பெருந்திட்டம்!! கடைசியில் அந்த திட்டத்தில் வெற்றியும் பெற்றார். மகாபாரத்தின் சூத்ரதாரி பகவான் ஸ்ரீகிருஷ்ணர்‬ தானே?

RANDOM THOUGHTS 511 TO 525

511. A child born in US becomes an automatic citizen of the US even if its parents are not. But it does not become a citizen of India.

512. Indian citizens living in the US, when a baby is born to them, they have to get the 'overseas citizen of India' card for the baby.

513. Though a child born in US becomes its automatic citizen, only after the age of 21,it can apply and get citizenship for its parent.

514. The children in US, are well aware of sexual implications and complications. So the parents do not worry much about their children.

515. In the US, there is freedom of sex. It is a part of life. Even parents do not interfere. It is not considered sacred as in India.

516. Before getting into the wedding lock, the man and woman in the US, indulge in 'dating' for a few years to understand each other.

517. In the US, there is no arranged marriage. All are love marriages. Some do not last even a year. Some last even more than 50 years.

518. Even today racism prevails in the US. It’s not just Mr.Trump, many of the whites also view that people of color are less American.

519. In US, about eight-in-ten blacks (78%) say the country hasn’t done enough in extending black people equal rights with the whites.

520. Facing indiscrimination, Indians live in US for the lure of money and lifestyle. Fortunately, India gains foreign exchange instead.

521. The foreign exchange reserve held by India has gone up from about 6 billion in 1991 to 447 billion in 2019 due to liberalization.

522. Please note the foreign exchange remittances per year by overseas Indians has gone up from 2 billion in 1991 to 80 billion in 2018.

523. In US, a house consists of a foyer,atrium,deck,reception, family room, kitchen,bedroom,bath, closets [cupboards],garage&basement.

524. In US, gas is supplied thro the pipeline. It is costlier than electricity. It is used for cooking and heating the house in winter.

525. The most popular sports in US are baseball, tennis, basketball, volleyball and athletics. Cricket is not liked due to long duration.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 496 TO 510

496. How nice it would be if the entire world has one nation, one religion, one text, one culture, one language, one govt and one law?

497. The realization of God comes only after total renunciation. It is impossible to achieve. Hence, I do not talk about spiritualism.

498. I find some GIF gives the impression that the person is suffering from epilepsy. It is also sore to one's eyes. You agree with me?

499. If one "thinks" that he is the only soul in this world and designs a routine from dawn to dusk, he can live anywhere in this world.

500. In a language, there are polite and harsh words. One should not use harsh words. It will hurt others and he will not be respected.

501. In between friendship and self-respect, I value self-respect. I do not hesitate to disown a friend if he fails to give me respect.

502. I am the prince, I am the pauper, I am the master, I am the servant, I am the head, I am the tail, I am everything, I am nothing.

503. In the Jury system, a lawyer purposely asks a question to raise an objection.But the point is already sowed in the minds of Jurors

504. The human mind is deeper than the ocean. People talk about devoted spouses and children. God only knows what lies in their minds.

505. After a journey, we gather our luggage to alight at the destination. But in our last journey, there is no luggage nor destination.

506. How does one know that his parents are his real parents? It is just a belief that someone close to him has told him. Am I correct?

507. My post questioning whether our parent is our real parent only implies that we should consider every elderly person as our parent.

508. Religious fanatics talk about following the culture. It is impossible to follow in toto. To what extent they follow is debatable.

509. There is a proverb in Tamil. "Those who are afraid of the tig4r can lie over me". It is a clear tactic to escape from the tiger.

510. Sixty years back the culture and attitude of India people were the best. In the entire world, India and its people were respected.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 481 TO 495

481. In US, the experience in the library is wonderful. The books are kept neatly. Old books in good condition are sold at low prices.

482. In US, tree branches protruding on the roads are cut by machines and powdered on the spot. It is used for generating electricity.

483. In the US, in every house, under the kitchen sink, a small grinder is fixed. It grinds and removes stagnated waste for free flow.

484. In US, per hour charges are: For maid $15.For music teacher $25.For tuition teacher $60,For skilled worker $85.For inspection $85.

485. In the US, in every lamp post, a small solar power generation unit is fixed to cater to the power requirement of the street lights.

486. In the US, for every 33 miles on highways, there is a beautiful restroom with a shop, garden, tables and benches to eat and relax.

487. In the US, most of the houses in the city are made of concrete and in other areas, they are made of wood above the plinth level.

488. In US, traffic lane lines on the roads look as if it is just now painted. It is bright white and clearly visible during the night.

489. In the US, in a parking lot, provision is made for physically challenged persons. No one occupies it even if no space is available

490. In the US, you have thick forests in between townships. The trees are tall, round and strait. The grassy landscapes are in plenty.

491. In US, roads are wide&well laid. Rules are strictly followed. Fines are heavy. No corruption by police. Pedestrians are respected.

492. One can visit the US as a tourist or student or for employment. He should possess a passport, visa, and an offer for the last two.

493. In US, poor people living on the street are less. During winter, Christian missions provide shelter to protect them from snowfall.

494. In US, petrol is called GAS and is measured in gallons equal to 4 litres. The price is $2.53 [Rs.180] per gallon. Rs.45 per litre.

495. There are 50 states in the US. Excepting New Jersey, in all other 49 states, in the bunk one has to pay and put petrol by himself.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 466 TO 480

466. In the US, Mar 21 to June 21 is the spring season. The plants shed a lot of pollen. Almost all people suffer from pollen allergy.

467. After Mr.Trump coming to power, it will take 100 years for Indians to get citizenship. Or, immediately if they invest US$4,50,000.

468. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics in US, the average American works 44 to 50 hours per week, or 8.8 to 10 hours per day.

469. In India, there is no time difference between Calcutta to Mumbai. In US, the difference between New York and California is 3 hrs.

470. In US, any item purchased in any shop can be returned within 90 days of purchase. The money will be refunded without any query.

471. In US, excluding tourists and students, all are given a "social security number" It contains details and activities of the person.

472. Americans are great patriots. They give a lot of respect for the national flag. Many have the national flag in their courtyard.

473. In US, in public meetings talking or making noise is forbidden. There must be pin-drop silence. A mild clap is allowed at the end.

474. In the US, there is Q system everywhere. People strictly follow the Q. Even seniors prefer to stand in the Q. No one jumps the Q.

475. The US is three times bigger than India in area [3.8:1.3 sq.mls] and India is four times more populated than the US [139:33crores]

476. In the US, 60plus citizens are taken care of by the Govt. They are given monthly pension of $500, concessional housing and ration.

477. In the US, the lending rate and deposit rate in banks are low. Hence it is spending economy. GDP of US and India is 21:3 trillion.

478. US has 8134 MT of gold. India has 618 MT. Indian household has about 25000 MT. Rupee would be costlier than Dollar with this gold.

479. In the US, a housemaid charges $15 per hour. Hence no one engages a maid. All the domestic chores are taken care of by themselves.

480. In US, workers are disciplined. Without demanding a bribe, within 30 minutes car driving license is renewed and pollution checked.

"96" A TAMIL MOVIE

Normally a person is able to remember things from the age of 7. Some may remember even things happened earlier.  A person becomes an adult by the age of 18 and becomes matured by the age of 24. From the age of 7 until the age of 18, so many things happen in one's life. It stands engraved in his memory. 

Some of the early incidents in one's life may be good or bad. After getting matured at 24, a person may even laugh at certain incidents of the past, regret about certain bad decisions, and relish certain interesting episodes that are good from his perspective. That is the reason why people write their biography.

The attraction towards the opposite sex early in life is experienced by most of the people. This is called infatuation. For some, the feeling may be light and for some, it may be strong depending upon his life situations. If a man remains without marrying any girl and lives in the memory of the girl even after many years, it is not infatuation but it is pure love. 

Occasionally I have written about politics, religion, communal and cinema in a broad sense and not in any way particular. I am a cinema buff but I do not relish Indian movies as long as the hero and heroine sing duet songs in various costumes anywhere in the open, the hero crushing ten people at a time without dirt on his dress, and vulgar dance, and comedy scenes.

Sometimes you get classic movies in Hindi and in regional languages, especially Malayalam and Bengali without any glimpse of the above qualities of a popular movie. The Tamil movie "96" released in 2018 was such a movie without the formula ingredients. Some people are apprehensive about the movie on moral grounds.

The movie "96" is different from other popular movies. There are no duet songs, violence, vulgar dances and dialogues, meaningless comedy, etc., I would like to analyze the psychological aspect of the movie to establish its worthiness. I give my analysis as under.

1. If a man is not married:
A. In case he happens to meet the girl and if she is unmarried, he can propose to her to marry him. 
B. In case the girl is married, and his love is pure, he can only avoid meeting her and not to embarrass her.

1. If a man is happily married: 
A. He may forget about the infatuated girl and may even laugh at it or even tell his wife openly.

2. If a man is not happily married: 
A. He may be brooding over the infatuated girl and about his misfortune. 
B. In case he happens to meet the girl later, he may not be willing to re-establish the old relationship for fear of repercussions if he is morally good.  
C. If he is not morally good, he will try to re-establish an illegal and immoral connection with the girl.

Now let us see the position from that of the girl. 

1. If a girl is not married: 
A. If she has come out of infatuation, she may not even recognize him. 
B. If she still loves him deeply as he loves her she can accept if he proposes for a marriage.

2. If the girl is happily married: 
A. It means she does not have any infatuation and she may tell him how happy she is and advise him to get married soon. 

3. If she is not happily married: 
A. She will curse her fate and avoid meeting him if she is a good girl. 
B. If she is not a good girl, she will only try to exploit his love to her favour by trying illegal and immoral means.

In this movie, the hero remains unmarried due to pure love and the heroine is married. Though she is not happily married, she does not resort to exploit the situation. She simply enjoys his company by sharing about their younger days and she also advises him to live the life by marrying his student. before wishing goodbye
. 
The following points are also to be considered.
1. It gives a warning to the adolescents about the perils of infatuation.
2. It gives entertainment for adults to enjoy brooding over their past infatuation if any.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 451 to 465

451. I am just writing what I have observed during my trip to the US. I have not downgraded India in any way. I think I am fair enough.

452. It is not a boon to live in the US. It is not a curse to live in India. I write about the US, only for the knowledge of my friends.

453. After becoming an overseas citizen, one should surrender all ID cards issued by Indian govt as he is no longer a citizen of India.

454. After becoming an overseas citizen, Indians can obtain "Overseas Citizens of India" card from Govt. of India by paying Rs.15000.

455. Indians, after becoming US citizens, can get citizenship for their parents and in-laws who will get US$ 500 every month from Govt.

456. Indian parents are not willing to settle with their children in the US for sentimental reasons. Where Rama lives should be Ayodhi.

457. If a person leads an economical life in the US and sends a max of his income to India, he can become self-sufficient in 15 years.

458. Like communal differences in India, there is discrimination among white and black people and indifference between faiths in the US

459. If you ask me whether I prefer India or US, I would say, I have designed my lifestyle so that I can stay anywhere in the world.

460. In US,when a school bus stops, a 6' rod protrudes in the front and STOP signal with red light appears on the left to stop traffic.

461. In US, the squirrel looks like a rodent. No RAMA lines on its back. It doesn't look beautiful. Our squirrel is lovely to look at.

462. The quality of vegetables, fruits, and provisions are of a high standard in all the shops. No adulteration or infected vegetables.

463. In the US, during winter, people cover 90% of their bodies with clothes. During summer, only 10% of their bodies are covered with.

464. Almost all people own a pet dog or cat. There is no stray dog on the street. They do not hesitate to clean if it poops in the open.

465. The US is pollution-free. You will not find dust, garbage, open drainage, smoke, etc. anywhere. Govt and people cooperate maximum.

466. In the US, higher education is costly. Graduation is 4 years. The fee is 24 lakhs. Master's degree is 2 years. The fee is 30 lakhs.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 436 TO 450

436. I am writing some details about the US for the information of my dear friends who have not visited the US. Please do not get bored.

437. Comparing summer in India and winter in the US, I would say, winter in the US is severe and unbearable. I pity the poor in the US.

438. In the US, if smoke emanates from the kitchen due to frying, immediately the fire alarm goes on and the fire service will arrive.

439. In US,it gets dark by 5 pm instead of 6 pm.The clock is turned back by one hour so that people go to work by 8 am instead of 9 am.

440. In India, streets are swept by the broom. In the US, air blowers mounted on the shoulders heap the debris and a machine suck them.

441. In the US, during FALL[Autumn] an enormous quantity of leaves is shed by trees that make life difficult for workers to clean them.

442. During FALL, the leaves change into wonderful colours say,white,orange,pink,yellow,maroon,violet,red etc, and fall to the ground.

443. Due to changes in daylight and temperature, the leaves stop producing chlorophyll during FALL. So other beautiful colors appear.

444. Pigments cause colour to the leaves. chlorophyl causes green. Carotenoids yellow and orange. Anthocyanins red, pink, or purple.

445. The other side of the river is always green.A short visit to the US is enjoyable.Only a long stay will help you understand people.

446. When Indians visit the US, while buying, they convert to the rupee equivalent and find the prices high. Then they do not buy it.

447. The price of a 2A battery costs about Rs.12 in India. In the US Walmart, it is $1.50[Rs.100] each with a minimum of 4 per set.OMG.

448. When I compare the prices in the US and India, excepting a few, all items are cheaper in India. I buy only items costly in India.

449. I think the majority of the Indians living in the US wish to come back to India. But everyone has his own reason not to come back.

450. In India, traffic is on the left and the driver is on the right. In the US, traffic is on the right and the driver is on the left.

I WAS SHORT-TEMPERED.

In 1966 when I was 21, I was in Tiruchy with my parents.  I had finished my degree and I was applying and applying without a reply for a job. Then I got a job as Accounts Assistant in a leading civil contractor's firm of Small Arms Project. The office was located in Thillainagar, Tiruchy. They had another office at the site and the HO at Madras.

There were about 15 staff members. Since there was no direct bus, I was going to the office in my father's cycle. It was a second-hand black Hercules cycle which my father had bought for Rs.50 from a friend. It had Brooks make an airplane seat. I used to go via the overbridge near the Fort railway station and turned left.

One Mr.Sargunam was the attender in the office. He was a rogue. He was in good terms with the Resident Engineer who was the boss. He never used to attend office duties. Many times I had quarreled with him. I used to discipline him but he would not budge.

One day, when I was about to leave the office, I found my cycle tyre punctured. It had a new tube and tyre. I suspected someone had purposely done it. When I inquired no one knew anything about it. One friend told me that he saw Sargunam doing the mischief with a pin.

On the next day, I confronted Sargunam on the road when he was coming to the office. He did not accept that he did it. I warned him saying, if he touched my cycle again I would break his bones. I was very short-tempered in those days. If I got angry, I did not hesitate to hit anyone.

Sargunam being a fragile person, went and reported the matter to the boss, the Resident Engineer. The boss called me and inquired. I told him what had happened. Supporting Sargunam, he started advising me. I did not like the way he had handled the matter as a boss because he needed Sargunam. 

I got wild and I told him in no uncertain terms, "Sir, this is not concerned with office work. It is my personal matter and it occurred outside the office. You have no business to interfere in this matter. I will not be coming to the office tomorrow. Goodbye".

N.B. On the previous day, I had received an appointment order as Junior Inspector of Coop Societies at Pudukottai directing me to join duty immediately. Ha Ha Ha.

தந்தைக்கு மரியாதை

பொதுவாக தந்தைகளின் இறுதிக் காலம் பெரும்பாலும் மௌனத்திலும், தனிமையிலும் சில சமயம் ஒதுக்கி வைக்கப்பட்டும், புறக்கணிப்பிலும் கழிய நேரிடுகிறது என்பது வருத்தத்துக்கு உரியது.

இதனால் தான் தந்தைமார் தாம் உழைத்துக் கொண்டே இருக்க வேண்டும் என்றும், மாறாக ஓய்வு பெற்று சும்மா இருப்பதற்கு  முன்னர் மரணித்துவிட வேண்டும் என்றும் நினைக்கின்றனர்.

குடும்பத்துக்காக உழைத்து உழைத்து ஓடான பின்னர் அவரை கௌரவமாக வாழ வழி செய்ய வேண்டும். மூலையில் இருத்தி, மௌனத்தில் ஆழ்த்தி, பேசாமல் கிடந்தால் போதும் என்ற மனப்பான்மையுடன் பிள்ளைகள் தந்தைமாரை நடத்தகூடாது..

வயதான தந்தை தன் குடும்பத்தினரிடமிருந்து மிகக் கொஞ்சமாகத் தான் கேட்பார். ஏனெனில் கேட்டுப் பழகாத குடும்பத் தலைவராக இருந்தவர். கொடுக்க மட்டுமே தெரிந்து வைத்திருந்தவர். எனவே வயதான காலத்தில் வாய் திறந்து கேட்கமாட்டார். குடும்பத்தினர் தான் அவரின் தேவைகளை அறிந்து நிறைவேற்றி வைக்க வேண்டும்.

வாசிக்கும் பழக்கம் உள்ளவரானால் குறைந்த பட்சம் வாரப் பத்திரிகையாவது வாங்கிக் கொடுங்கள்.

சில்லறைச் செலவுகளுக்காக கொஞ்சம் பணமும் கொடுங்கள்.

மூலையில் அமர்த்தாமல் சிறிய வேலைகளைக் கொடுங்கள்.

.பேரன் பேத்திகளை அவரிடம் இருந்து பிரிக்காதீர்கள். அவர்கள் தந்தையால் கொண்டாடப்படும் செல்வங்கள்.

குடும்பத் தேவைகளைப் பார்த்து பார்த்து செய்தவருக்கு, இப்போது நீங்கள் பார்த்துப் பார்த்து செய்ய வேண்டும்..

தந்தை மறைந்த பின்னர், அதைச் செய்யவில்லையே, இதைச் செய்திருக்கலாமே என்று எண்ணிப் புலம்புவதைவிட, உயிருடன் இருக்கும்போதே அவர் இறுதி காலம் அமைதியாகக் கழிவதற்கு வழி வகை செய்யுங்கள்.

வயதானவர்களுக்கு தனிமை மிகக் கொடுமையானது. ஒரு சிறிய வானொலியை வாங்கிக் கொடுங்கள். முடிந்தால் தனி டி.வி இல்லையேல் உங்களுடன் அமர்ந்து தொலைக்காட்சி நிகழ்ச்சிகளை பார்க்க விடுங்கள்.

தன் மனைவியை இழந்த தந்தையின் தனிமை மிகமிகக் கொடுமையானது என்பதை உணர்ந்து கொள்ள வேண்டும்.

பெண் ஒரு கணவனை இழந்தால் அவரால் அதை ஜீரணித்து தன் பிள்ளைகளுடன் போய்ச் சேர்ந்து கொள்வாள். பெண் சூழலுக்கு ஏற்றாற் போல வளைந்து கொடுத்து வாழ்பவள்.

குடும்பத் தலைவன், அதிகாரம் செலுத்தியவன், சம்பாதித்தவன், பிறர் மதிப்புக்கு உரியவன் என்றெல்லாம் வாழ்ந்து விட்ட தந்தை, தன் அதிகாரமும், அன்பும், நெருக்கமும், காட்டக் கூடிய மற்றும் எது வேண்டுமானாலும் பகிர்ந்து கொள்ளக் கூடிய மனைவியை இழந்தபின் கையறு நிலைக்கு ஆளாகி விடுகிறார் என்பதை உணர்ந்து கொள்ளுங்கள்.

இவற்றை உணர்ந்து தந்தைக்கு மரியாதை செய்யுங்கள்,அவர் கௌரவிக்கப்பட வேண்டியவர்.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 421 TO 435

421. Satire is humor, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize the stupidity of others as if he is more intelligent.

422. If there is only one religion in the entire world, all of us can sing the same hymn together and there will never be intolerance.

423. Look at yourself and nature. You become overwhelmed. How wonderful this creation is! Where is that creator? You will never know.

424. Liberal and conservative people are opposite poles. Wonder how this generation and the last generation are able to live together!

425. It is a custom in western culture, for a man with a ring in his hand, to go down on one knee and propose to a woman to marry him.

426. The intensity and severity of the loss experienced by the father losing his son is incomparable to that of a son losing his father.

427. Kanchi Pramacharya was the noblest who lived in this world. His teachings are of immense value. Wonder no one bothers about them.

428. Death is actually the beginning of another life and birth is the ending of the previous life. There is no birth or death in life.

429. It does not mean if a father shows the carrot the child will turn bad, nor the child will turn good if the father shows the stick.

430. A word that remains the same when you read from right to left or from left to right is called PALINDROME. For eg. Malayalam, eye.

431. Marriage is the union of a man and a woman legally, economically, and emotionally that gives them legitimacy to sexual relations.

432. There is a limit for the Indians in following the western culture. Using toilet paper instead of water for cleaning is ridiculous.

433. The sacred text of Christians is the Bible. Muslims have the Quran. Hindus have Vedas. How many of us know Vedas and Upanishads?

434. Ladies are unpredictable. One must be careful to deal with known ladies. He must be double careful with unknown ladies. Beware.

435. Hindus believe in reincarnation whereas Christians and Muslims do not believe. But nobody knows what is going to happen tomorrow.

சின்ன சின்ன சமையல் டிப்ஸ் 91 TO 105

91. மிளகாய் வத்தலை வறுக்கும் பொழுது சிறிது உப்பு சேர்த்து வறுத்தால் நெடியைத் தவிர்க்கலாம். ஹச்...... ஊச்......... என்று தும்மல் ஏற்பட்டு பாடாய்படுத்தாது.

92. வடகத்தை வெறும் வாணலியில் வறுத்த பின் எண்ணெயில் பொறித்தால் நன்றாக பொறிந்து மொறு, மொறுப்பாக இருக்கும்.

93. வேப்பம் பூவை நெய்யில் வறுத்து சிறிது உப்பு சேர்த்து சாதத்தில் பிசைந்து பயன்படுத்தினால் ஜுரம், வரவே வராது. வேப்பம்பூவிற்கு எங்கே போவது என நினைக்க வேண்டாம். கடைகளில் கிடைக்கிறது.

94. அருகம்புல் சாறு எடுத்து சப்பாத்தி மாவில் கலந்து ரொட்டி செய்து சாப்பிடுவது நல்லது. தாது உப்புக்களும், வைட்டமீன்களும் அருகம்புல்லில் அதிகம்.

95. ஓமப்பொடி செய்யும் பொழுது கடலைமாவு, மூன்று பங்கு, அரிசி மாவு ஒரு பங்கு சிறிது மைதா கலந்து செய்தால் எண்ணெய் குடிக்காமலும், தூள் அதிகமாகாமலும், நன்றாக எடுக்க வரும். 

96. கறிவேப்பிலைச் செடி நன்கு வளர புளித்த மோருடன் நீர் கலந்து ஊற்றி வரலாம்.

97. மைசூர் பாகு செய்வதற்குக் கடலை மாவை டால்டாவில் கரைத்து பின் சர்க்கரைப் பாகில் கிளறினால் கட்டியில்லாமல் மென்மையாக வரும்.

98. ஜாடியில் ஊறுகாயைப் போடும் முன் கொதிக்கும் எண்ணெயில் நனைக்கப்பட்ட துணியால் ஜாடியின் உட்புறத்தை துடைத்த பின் ஊறுகாயைப் போட்டு மூடி வைத்தால் பூசனம் பிடிக்காமல் இருக்கும்..

99. பாயசத்திற்கு, திராட்சைக்கு பதிலாக பேரிச்சம் பழத்தை பொடியாக நறுக்கி வைத்து நெய்யில் பொரித்து போட்டால் சுவையாக இருக்கும்.

100. வெங்காய பக்கோடா செய்ய மாவு பிசையும் போது வறுத்த நிலக்கடலையை பொடி செய்து மாவுடன் சேர்த்து பிசையவும். இதனால் பக்கோடா மொறு மொறுவென்று ருசியாக இருக்கும்.

101. சப்பாத்தி செய்து எண்ணெய் வடிகட்டியில் போட்டு மூடி வைத்தால் அடியில் உள்ள சப்பாத்தி வேர்த்து ஈரமாகாமல் இருக்கும்.

102. சக்கரைப் பொங்கல் செய்யும்போது அரை கப் தேங்காய் பால் ஊற்றிக் கிளறி இறக்கினால், பொங்கல் மிகவும் சுவையாக இருக்கும்.

103. தேங்காய்த் துருவல் மீதியானால், அதை லேசாக வதக்கி சிறிது உப்பு சேர்த்து வைத்தால் மறுநாள் சமையலுக்குப் பயன் படுத்திக் கொள்ளலாம்.

104. உளுந்துவடை செய்யும் போது மாவுடன் வேகவைத்த உருளைக்கிழங்கை மசித்து கலந்து வடை செய்தால், வடை எண்ணெய் குடிக்காமல் மொறு மொறுவென்று ருசியாக இருக்கும்.

105. கேசரி, பால்கோவா, தேங்காய் பர்பி போன்ற இனிப்புகள் நான்ஸ்டிக் பாத்திரத்தில் செய்தால் அடி பிடிக்காமல், எளிதாக கிளறலாம்.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 406 TO 420

406. To grudge over the wrong, a person has done to you in the past, affects only your health and not that of his. He goes scot-free.

407. It is impossible to keep two swords in a sheath. Similarly, the parents of the SIL and that of the DIL cannot live under one roof.

408. I am not for keeping pet animals/birds for they are deprived of freedom, to prey, to eat natural food, and be a master on its own.

409. Battle is a sustained fight between large organized armed forces. War is armed conflict between two nations or states or groups. 

410. Men should remember while the Queen on the chessboard can move freely anywhere, the King can move only one square around at a time

411. Among other things, what I appreciate the most about the US is well-laid roads, disciplined traffic, and excellent signal system.

412. If a person is not convinced with what another person has written, he should ignore it instead of asking for proof or statistics.

413. When a person does not succeed in spite of best efforts, he should not brood over his misfortune but try other avenues to succeed.

414. Whenever someone gifts me a book, I feel I have a long way to go in learning and it will be a difficult task to become a teacher.

415. In US, the clocks are moved back by one hour at 2AM on 1st Sunday in Mar. It is moved forward by one hour on 2nd Sunday in Nov.

416. When a woman has leadership, she is branded bossy. When a man has the same quality, he is declared as a decisive and born leader.

417. A husband and wife, always try to have control over the other under the guise of LOVE. Many are not aware of this and fall as prey.

418. I think men have more love, care, sympathy, and concern for a pregnant woman than the women, though they belong to the same group.

419. Since the women already know and experienced pregnancy, they care less for other women when compared to men who are very ignorant.

420. Sarcasm is irony to mock or convey contempt at others.It is unfriendly.It should not be encouraged.It should be nipped in the bud.

MY DAILY ROUTINE

Health and wealth are like the two sides of a coin. Wealth without good health is of no use. During our earlier life, we were in pursuit of wealth. At least, in our later years, we should take care of our health. To follow a routine and systematic life after retirement is important to maintain good health as medical expenses are high now.

I am 76 and I give below my daily routine as guidance for others. You may make suitable adjustments according to your lifestyle. The younger generation may also follow. However, please remember "early to bed and early to rise" make a person healthy wealthy, and wise.

5-00 AM  Wake up.

5-30 Getting up from the bed.

5-30 to 6-00 Brushing / prayer.

6-00 Black coffee.

6-00 to 6-30 Reading Times of India.

6-30 to 7-00 Mild exercises.

7-00 to 8-00 Morning walk.

8-00 to 8-30 Browsing The Hindu, BBC News. etc,

8-30 Organic green tea with ginger and lemon or soup.

8-30 to 9-00 Morning chores / bath etc.

9-00 to 10-00 Prayer / meditation.

10-00 to 10-30 Morning meals [Rice, sambar or rasam, vegetable, buttermilk].

10-30 to 1-30 Reading / writing / music.

1-30 to 2-00 Nap

2-00 Black coffee.

2-00 to 3-30 Reading / writing / music.

3-30 to 4-00 Evening tiffin [idly, dosa or steam cooked] with buttermilk.

4-00 to 5-00 Evening walk.

5-00 to 5-30 Browsing Internet / WhatsApp.

5-30 to 6-00 Evening bath / prayer.

6-00 to 7-00 Reading / writing / music.

7-00 to 7-30 Dinner [same as in the morning].

7-30 to 9-00 Reading / writing / music.

9-00 To bed.

PLEASE NOTE:

1. I read about 75 pages a day.

2. I wash my clothes myself.

3. I browse the Internet for knowledge.

4. I see a movie on TV with family once a week.

5. I rarely make calls on my phone.

6. I help with domestic chores.

7. Dinner in the hotel and movie once a month with family.

8. Mostly, I dine together with my family.

9. I help my granddaughter with her studies.

10. This routine may vary on special days.

சுந்தர காண்டம்

அனுமனுக்கு சுந்தரம் என்கின்ற பெயர் உண்டு அதில் வரும் எல்லாமே அழகான விஷயங்கள். சுந்தரம் என்றால் அழகு என்றும் ஒரு அர்த்தம் உண்டு. இந்த சுந்தர காண்டம் ராமாயணத்துக்கே திருப்புமுனையாக அமைந்தது.

இந்த காண்டத்தில் தான் ஆஞ்சநேயர் கடல் தாண்டி போய் ஸ்ரீ ராமரின் கணையாழி யை கொடுத்து சீதா மாதாவின்.சூடாமணி கொண் டு வந்து கொடுத்த பின் தான் தசரத மைந்தன் ராமனுக்கு ஹனுமனின் பிரபாவம் புரிந்ததாம்.

அனுமனின் செயற்கரிய செயலுக்கு என்ன கைம்மாறு செய்ய முடியும்? மனதார அவரை ஆலிங்கனம் செய்து கொண்டாராம். இதை கேட்கும் போது மெய் சிலிர்க்கிறது. இப்படிப்பட்ட ஆச்சரிய புருஷரான அனுமனை உலக மஹா தமிழ் கவி கம்பன் நன்கு தேர்ந் தெடுத்த சொற்களால் இப்படித் துதிக்கிறார்

🌷" அஞ்சிலே ஒன்று பெற்றான் அஞ்சிலே ஒன்றைத் தாவி
அஞ்சிலே ஒன்று ஆறு ஆக ஆரியர்க்காக ஏகி
அஞ்சிலே ஒன்று பெற்ற அணங்கைக் கண்டு அயலாரூரில்
அஞ்சிலே ஒன்றை வைத்தான் அவன் எம்மை அளித்துக் காப்பான்.." 🌷

இதன் பொருள்:-

🌷அஞ்சிலே ஒன்று பெற்றான் = ஐந்து பூதங்களில் ஒன்றான வாயு பகவான் பெற்ற மைந்தனான அனுமன்

🌷அஞ்சிலே ஒன்றைத் தாவி = ஐந்து பூதங்களில் ஒன்றான நீர்ப்பரப்பான கடலைத் தாண்டி

🌷அஞ்சிலே ஒன்று ஆறு ஆக ஆரியர்க்காக ஏகி = ஐந்து பூதங்களில் ஒன்றான ஆகாயத்தை வழியாகக் கொண்டு ஶ்ரீராமனுக்காக சென்று

🌷அஞ்சிலே ஒன்று பெற்ற அணங்கைக் கண்டு அயலாரூரில் = ஐந்து பூதங்களில் ஒன்றான பூமி பெற்றெடுத்த சீதாபிராட்டியை இலங்கையில் கண்டு

🌷அஞ்சிலே ஒன்றை வைத்தான் = அங்கு ஐந்து பூதங்களில் ஒன்றான தீயை வைத்தான்

🌷அவன் எம்மை அளித்துக் காப்பான் = அவன் எம்மை அனைத்து நலன்களும் அளித்துக் காப்பான்..

பஞ்ச பூதங்களின் உதவியுடன் சீதா தேவியை அடைந்தான் ஹனுமன். இதை தினமும் அனு சந்தி்த்து வருபவர்களுக்கு ராமன், ஹனுமன் இருவரின் அருளும் கிடைக்கும்.