LOVE MARRIAGE VS ARRANGED MARRIAGE

This morning during my walk, I saw a college-going boy and a girl aged about 18, fair and good looking, coming from the opposite direction, carrying shoulder bags, holding their hands and before crossing me, talking, laughing, giggling, fighting, arguing, slapping, and smiling. They are in love. How far it is going to be successful is a question mark. 

Marriage is a very important social institution. ​​The basis for any marriage is love, caring, sharing, adjusting, accepting, accommodating, understanding and tolerating.​ ​​​​​​​It has been scientifically proved that 99.99% of the DNA for all human beings is the same and only 0.01% differs. This 0.01% contributes to all the differences between individuals. ​​

Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing the partner is different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in the case of arranged marriages individuals prefers partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose a partner for marriage. Let’s analyze which one of the two is better.

Love marriage

1. Both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to spend the whole life with each other.

2. The couple is aware of each other’s likes and dislikes. Therefore they will get along well. 

3. While making love, the boys do various things to please the girls but they are different after marriage. 

4. Mostly the lover turns a husband which breaks the heart of the girl. If they continue to be lovers even after marriage, then there will ever be happy. ​

5. The couple is responsible for its choice and onus of the blame in future lies on the couple only and nobody else. 

6. The couple can eradicate social evil like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the independence to make such decisions​.

7. The culture of the extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the couple.

Arranged marriage:

Parents do not consider that their children are matured enough to take an independent decision on marriage. They are unable to digest the fact that their children have taken the decision without even consulting them. So they take it as an insult. Also, they are much worried in case of any eventuality.

1. ​In an arranged marriage, you do not know anything about the spouse and you have no expectation. 

2. You are happy even if you get reasonable satisfaction and you can improve upon it in due course. 

​3. Arranged Marriage is not a contract between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families. 

4. Two families involved in arranged marriages know each other very well and are compatible with each other. 

5. Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated. 

6. The couple is guided by parents experience whereas in love marriage couple is unknown about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.

Conclusion:

Both ways have their merits as well as demerits and marriage is a decision of a lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the marriages, it’s the couple who have to live together for a lifetime. So, the decision to choose a life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately no one can certify the best way for a perfect married life because like life marriages too are full of uncertainties. ​​

According to research, in India arranged marriages are more and love marriages are less for ethical, moral, cultural, traditional, regional, linguistic, communal, economical, and religious reasons. In cosmopolitan and well to do families this concern does not arise due to the money power and the independence of the children.   

DETAILS TAKEN FROM GOOGLE: In fact, today up to 90 percent of marriages in India and 60 percent of all marriages in the world are arranged. Divorce rates in India overall are pegged at about 1.2 percent. In India rates of divorce in love marriages are much higher than in arranged marriages. According to a 2012 study by Statistic Brain, the global divorce rate for arranged marriages was 6 percent — a significantly low number. Compared to the 55 percent of marriages in the world that are arranged, this low statistic shows the success rate of arranged marriages.