Pandit Late Sri. Jawaharlal Nehru's letters to his daughter, when he was in prison, were famous. They were published under the caption "Letters from father to daughter".
I am not so famous like him. But I am also a father. I also write letters to my children. This letter was written by me from Chennai on 26th June 2006 to my son at Hyderabad when he was 26. It is self-explanatory.
My dear son,
After long deliberations, I am writing this letter to you. Everyone has to live his life. No one can escape. No outside guidance will help. He is drawn towards his fate. However, as a father, I have some duty towards you. I will not tell you what to do and what not. I can only guide you. You have to make the decision, lead your life and face the consequences. You have passed your boyhood and you have become an adult, educated, employed making your own money.
You are now getting ready to be married which is the second stage in everyone's life. The third stage comes when you retire. So, for the second stage which is tougher than the first stage, one has to be mentally, physically and emotionally ready to lead a peaceful and harmonious life. Happiness is not anywhere but it is within you. It depends on how you look at it, how you take it and what your attitude is.
Coming back to the subject, you have to get ready for married life. Though I am confident you know a good part of it, I feel I must tell you something important. The girl, you are going to choose [not us] may be rich/poor, beautiful/normal, educated/not educated, city/rural, employed/unemployed, and emotional/intellectual. A rich, beautiful, educated and employed girl may not prefer us. You will have to choose the right girl suitable for you.
A person who does not know his weaknesses is not strong enough to face life. We desire so many things but we get only what we deserve. So if a person has the right attitude, to accept what comes in as his destiny, then he lives peacefully. I do not recommend anyone for you. You have to decide. An employed girl can help in building up assets. There are many plus and minus with employed as well as unemployed girls. Now girls are well educated and well employed. They prefer boys according to their education and employment. They are only willing to marry boys who will suit their requirement and they are not willing to adjust to suit other's needs.
Your life is going to be much more difficult than mine for various reasons. Hence I am worried about you. Traditional girls who do not go for jobs, who are interested in household work, to look after parents, husband and children are rare. You need the help of the parent or in-laws to send the girl for a job. No girl would prefer to leave a job after 2 or 3 years after tasting the pleasures of it.
The parents are already tired of their living and they do not have the strength to take care of the children's family. That was the reason why they married unemployed girls in their life. We are planning to let you [both] have an independent life so that you have the freedom and good understanding. We know when to come and join you. Therefore, calmly weigh all the pros and consequences and take a wise decision.
Wishing you the best in your life.
Yours loving father,
N.B. In my opinion, a good looking, graduate, unemployed, middle class girl from the rural may be suitable for you.
I am not so famous like him. But I am also a father. I also write letters to my children. This letter was written by me from Chennai on 26th June 2006 to my son at Hyderabad when he was 26. It is self-explanatory.
My dear son,
After long deliberations, I am writing this letter to you. Everyone has to live his life. No one can escape. No outside guidance will help. He is drawn towards his fate. However, as a father, I have some duty towards you. I will not tell you what to do and what not. I can only guide you. You have to make the decision, lead your life and face the consequences. You have passed your boyhood and you have become an adult, educated, employed making your own money.
You are now getting ready to be married which is the second stage in everyone's life. The third stage comes when you retire. So, for the second stage which is tougher than the first stage, one has to be mentally, physically and emotionally ready to lead a peaceful and harmonious life. Happiness is not anywhere but it is within you. It depends on how you look at it, how you take it and what your attitude is.
Coming back to the subject, you have to get ready for married life. Though I am confident you know a good part of it, I feel I must tell you something important. The girl, you are going to choose [not us] may be rich/poor, beautiful/normal, educated/not educated, city/rural, employed/unemployed, and emotional/intellectual. A rich, beautiful, educated and employed girl may not prefer us. You will have to choose the right girl suitable for you.
A person who does not know his weaknesses is not strong enough to face life. We desire so many things but we get only what we deserve. So if a person has the right attitude, to accept what comes in as his destiny, then he lives peacefully. I do not recommend anyone for you. You have to decide. An employed girl can help in building up assets. There are many plus and minus with employed as well as unemployed girls. Now girls are well educated and well employed. They prefer boys according to their education and employment. They are only willing to marry boys who will suit their requirement and they are not willing to adjust to suit other's needs.
Your life is going to be much more difficult than mine for various reasons. Hence I am worried about you. Traditional girls who do not go for jobs, who are interested in household work, to look after parents, husband and children are rare. You need the help of the parent or in-laws to send the girl for a job. No girl would prefer to leave a job after 2 or 3 years after tasting the pleasures of it.
The parents are already tired of their living and they do not have the strength to take care of the children's family. That was the reason why they married unemployed girls in their life. We are planning to let you [both] have an independent life so that you have the freedom and good understanding. We know when to come and join you. Therefore, calmly weigh all the pros and consequences and take a wise decision.
Wishing you the best in your life.
Yours loving father,
N.B. In my opinion, a good looking, graduate, unemployed, middle class girl from the rural may be suitable for you.
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