SO IT IS IN YOUR HANDS.

Hi friends,

It is believed that when Saint Thiruvalluvar called his wife Vasuki when she was drawing water in the well, she left the rope midway to answer his call. The vessel stopped in the same place until she returned. No one knows how far this is true !! However, it shows their mutual understanding.

He was a great poet and no one on earth has imparted so much knowledge in his 1330 couplets. He has covered every aspect of life and there is nothing which he has not mentioned. I doubt most of the Tamil people may not even be knowing ten out of them.

All men and women are equal and no one is superior. The main differences between them, apart from childbearing, are 1. the woman keeps her feelings inside but the man lets it go. 2. The woman weeps outside but the man inside. So much has been written about how they should lead their life happily but no one cares.

An ideal couple is a rarity and understanding couple is a minority. The majority carry on with difference of opinion to safeguard their marriage. Few prefer divorce. Someone said, if all people are given another opportunity, 90% would be willing to remarry. Such is the sorry state of affairs.

The main reason being there is no love, understanding, and compatibility among couples. Each one tries to boss over/rule/overpower/ the other. They expect more from the other giving back nothing in return. Then why people say when one dies, before the other, they will suffer a lot?. 

The key lies in developing detached attachment as advocated in Bhagavad Gita. During their lifetime, they should develop the art of living independent of the other while they live together. They should learn everything from the other so that they don't suffer when one leaves the other.

The man should learn by contributing and helping the wife in all the domestic chores like cooking, washing clothes, sweeping, mopping, cleaning, etc. By doing this, he not only learns the work but also understands her difficulties and also wins her heart.

The woman on her part should contribute and learn the work of men like dealing with the bank, knowing about investments/insurance, traveling alone to places, safeguarding from others, handling cards and managing funds, etc. This will earn her the love and affection of the man.

Most of the people do not allow the other to learn. By learning, they are only preparing themselves to be interdependent as well as independent. They will not suffer from anything excepting loneliness when one departs early which is inevitable. So it is in your hands to design your life.