Every relationship has a cycle... In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, their touch, and their peculiarities. It is a natural and spontaneous experience. That is why it is called "falling" in love.
But after sometime, the euphoria of love fades. Slowly phone calls become a bother, touch is not welcome, and your spouse's behaviour, drive you nuts.
You will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were madly in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you start asking, "Am I with the right person?" and you may desire to experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it is learning to love the person you found.
There is no guarantee that the other person will be to your expectations. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But some people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, seeing TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.
You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. WHAT TO DO to make it work.
There are specific things you can do. Just as there are physical laws (such as gravity), there are laws for relationships. Love is a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!
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