RESOLUTIONS.

It is important to have firm resolutions to lead a happy, healthy and peaceful life. Without resolutions, life is a waste. 

As a senior citizen, I just give you 12 points to follow in life. It is only a suggestion and not a condition. It is up to you to follow or to ignore it. I am neither going to gain nor lose.

1. Never fail to do your duty to yourself, to your family and to your nation.

2. Make your parents happy by talking, caring and sharing with them.

3. Help the poor in some way. Do some philanthropic activity for them.

4. Believe in God. Never fail to pray both in the morning and evening.

5. Do not get into bad habits like smoking, drinking or women even for fun.

6. Our culture is unique. Develop a belief in our culture and try to follow it.

7. Your family is most important to you. Live and die for them.

8. Understand politics. Do not indulge, discuss, or propagate it.

9. Your religion is yours. Do not indulge, discuss or propagate it.

10. Lead a simple life. Don't show off. Do not make the poor envy you.

11. See movies and enjoy. Do not hero-worship the actors.

12. Read books. Reading makes a man. It gives knowledge.

GOD IS BEYOND OUR KNOWLEDGE.

Everyone is asking where God is and to show Him to them. God is everywhere, He is shapeless, colourless, odourless, and invisible to the naked eye. 

Only from our life incidents, we can feel the presence of God. He is beyond our knowledge.

After we get up from bed, we brush our teeth and before taking coffee or tea, we should pray to God for a few minutes. 

Then we wish ”good morning” to others to develop a cordial relationship. Then we talk about good matters to get peace of mind.

Knowledge can be explained in three ways. 1. Known 2. Unknown 3. Unknowable.

You go to a fruit shop and you see an apple. You know very well that it is an apple. This is KNOWN to you.

But you do not know how many seeds are there inside the apple. This is UNKNOWN to you. You cut the apple and count the seeds. Now the unknown becomes known to you.

But you do not know how many trees, fruits, and seeds those seeds will produce. This is UNKNOWABLE. Whatever the effort you take, you will never know. That is GOD. Let us pray to that God.

பிஸிபேலா பாத் :

பிஸிபேலா பாத்.[ 4 நபர்களுக்கு ]

தேவையான பொருட்கள் :

பச்சரிசி  200  கிராம்,

துவரம் பருப்பு  100  கிராம்,

கடுகு  1  ஸ்பூன் 

புளி  100  கிராம் 

கடலப்பருப்பு  1 டேபிள் ஸ்பூன்,

தனியா 1 + 1/2 டேபிள் ஸ்பூன்,

பெருங்காயம் 1  டேபிள் ஸ்பூன்,

மிளகாய் வத்தல் 10 

தேங்காய் ஒரு மூடி,

வெந்தயம் 1 /2 டி ஸ்பூன் ,

கறிவேப்பிலை 

பட்டை 1 , லவங்கம் 4 

தேவையான காய்கறிகள் [நான் சேர்ப்பதில்லை]

1 . முதலில் அரிசி, து.பருப்பு இரண்டையும் கலந்து, நன்கு களைந்து, குக்கரில் குழைய வேக வைக்கவும்.

2 . பிறகு ஒரு கடாயில், ஒரு தேக்கரண்டி தேங்காய் எண்ணை அல்லது நல்ல எண்ணை விட்டு, எண்ணை காய்ந்ததும், கடுகு போட்டு அது வெடித்ததும், வெந்தயம், பெருங்காயம், பட்டை, லவங்கம்,க.பருப்பு, தனியா,மி.வத்தல், முதலியவற்றை போட்டு, சிவக்க வறுக்கவும். அது ஆறினவுடன் [ தண்ணீர் விடாமல் ] நைசாக மிக்ஸியில் அரைக்கவும்.

3 . பிறகு அடுப்பில் ஒரு கெட்டியான பாத்திரத்தை வைத்து அதில் தேவைக்கேற்ப புளிக்கரைசலை விடவும். அதில் உப்பு, மஞ்சள் பொடி, போட்டு கொதிக்க விடவும். அடுப்பை சிம்மில் வைக்கவும். பிறகு அரைத்த பொடியை போட்டு நன்கு கொதிக்க விடவும். சிறிது கெட்டியானதும் இறக்கி விடவும்.

4 . பிறகு சாதத்தை நன்கு மசித்து, அதில் போட்டு நன்கு கிளறவும்.பிறகு ஒரு கரண்டி நெய், ஒண்ணறை கரண்டி நல்ல எண்ணையை, லேசாக சுட்டவுடன், சாதத்தில் கொட்டிக் கிளறவும். பிறகு கடாயில் சிறிது தேங்காய் எண்ணையை  காய வைத்து தேங்காய் துருவலை சிவக்க வறுத்து சாதத்தில் கொட்டி கறிவேப்பிலை போட்டு கிளறிவிடவும். 

Overcoming the barriers of eighty.

In Japan, a new book by Japanese psychologist Hideki Wada has recently been published under the title “Overcoming the Eighty Barriers”, and it has caused quite a stir. 

The moment the book reached the stores, sales surpassed 500,000 copies, and many predict it will become a global bestseller if it reaches the one-million mark in the coming months.

Dr. Wada (61) is a leading expert in the field of elderly health. He summarized his extensive experience into 24 rules that form the secret to a calmer and more fulfilling life after the age of 60—rules that appear simple, yet contain deep wisdom:

1. Take a walk every day.
2. Breathe deeply when you are angry.
3. Keep moving and don’t let the body stiffen.
4. Drink water in summer even when you are in an air-conditioned room.
5. Chew your food well… the mind moves together with the mouth.
6. Memory does not disappear with age, but due to lack of activity.
7. Do not overuse medications.
8. Do not try unnecessarily to lower blood pressure or blood sugar levels.
9. Being alone can be peaceful; it is not necessarily isolation.
10. Laziness is not shameful.
11. In old age, you do not have to have a driver’s license.
12. Do what you love, and let go of what you do not love.
13. Do not confine yourself only to the house.
14. Eat what makes you happy… a small weight gain will not harm you.
15. Do not spend time with people you are uncomfortable around.
16. Do not watch too much television.
17. Learn to live alongside illness, instead of constantly fighting it.
18. Optimism is medicine.
19. Fruit, sunshine, and fresh air—these are all sources of happiness.
20. Express what is in your heart.
21. Change your mind if necessary; it’s not a problem.
22. Stopping learning is the beginning of old age.
23. It is enough to simply be content… and a smile brings good luck.
24. And old age? It is not a burden… but a gift.

With these wise words, Dr. Wada reminds us that the years after sixty are not the end of the road, but rather the beginning of a stage of simplicity and serenity—a stage in which we look at life more clearly and come closer to ourselves with greater honesty.

FIND THE TRUTH.

Sometime back, I was traveling in Brindhavan Express going to Bangalore from Chennai. 

You have only seating accommodation on the train. Opposite to my seat was a family consisting of a father, mother and an 8-year-old son. 

On the request of the son, the father went out and got a few cans of a cool drink. After the train departed, the son, asked the father to give him a can. 

The father gave him one, after opening it. The boy drank it with great joy, smiling at the father. The father also was pleased. 

On such occasions, I find it difficult to remain quiet. Out of curiosity, I asked the father how can he give his son something without even checking on it. The liquid is not even visible to the naked eye to see whether it is of good quality or not. He laughed and said one must have belief. 

After an hour, the son started vomiting. The parents were worried. I asked them what he ate in the morning and also to check another can. 

When its contents were poured into a vessel, it was found to be contaminated. Just seeing and believing is not enough. One must thoroughly check to get the truth.

I AM SUBMISSIVE.

I am not ashamed but proud to admit it. I am quite submissive. I am not for any confrontation with anyone. 

I have my own views. But I don't insist on my views on others. I try to explain my stand to convince him. The moment I understand that he is not convinced and is firm in his views I just leave it.

I also try to respect his views and to understand him. If I am convinced with what he says, I accept it without any reservation. Otherwise, just to please him, I pose as if I have lost. 

I don't believe in the win or loss, defeat or victory. Let him be happy that he has won. Let him hold the trophy and run around the ground.

Why should I quarrel with others and develop misunderstanding, hatred, blood pressure etc? What am I going to gain? Will I become a world champion in the argument? 

God has not given equal intelligence to everyone. It varies from person to person according to bringing up, living conditions, education and in the lifestyle. “Let the bygones be bygones” is my policy.

THE BED IS THE SAME.

It is anybody's guess that a  husband and wife sleep on the same bed during the night unless there are other reasons. 

But it is totally different how they make use of it when they are in their 30s and 70s. 

When they are in the latter part of their life, mutual understanding, and help during the night are more important than making love. 

They may not have a proper vision in the dark through the night lamp is there. They have to wake up their spouse for any help disturbing their sleep. The spouse should not get annoyed and be persevering. 

Their love at this stage is totally different. To advise, to control, to reprimand, and to put conditions are all called love.

It may take time for them to recoup strength and to have the physical balance to get down from the bed. 

To walk slowly to the bathroom in the dark, to switch on the light, not to forget to keep the door unlocked, to answer the call of nature, and to slowly come back to bed is not as easy as others imagine. You will realize their plight only when you become old.

Still, the worse, if they have other age-related physical ailments. Their sleep may get disturbed afterward and they may like to talk at the dead of night. 

To be mutually helpful, instead of being self-interested, is more important. 

Have you ever thought about the plight of a single person who has lost the best half?