TALKATIVE CHILDREN !!!!

It is generally good and a normal part of development for young children to be very talkative, as it reflects high curiosity, developing language skills, and active learning. This constant chatter helps children process their world, build self-regulation, and express creativity. However, it is important to teach them, around age five, when it is appropriate to talk versus listen. 

Why Being Talkative is Beneficial:

• Cognitive Development: Talking helps children process thoughts and develop an inner voice.
• Language Skills: It allows them to practice new words, sentence structures, and communication skills.
• Creativity and Confidence: It fosters imagination and helps children feel confident in sharing their opinions.
• Connection: It is a way for children to bond with caregivers. 

When it Becomes a Concern:

While talkativeness is normal, it can become an issue if the child: 

• Interrupts constantly and cannot stop, indicating a lack of impulse control.
• Dominates conversations, causing difficulties in social interactions and friendships.
• Shows signs of extreme impulsivity or other behavioral issues (e.g., in some cases of ADHD). 

Tips for Managing Excessive Talkativeness:

• Teach Turn-Taking: Encourage "serve and return" communication, where the child learns to wait for their turn.
• Set Boundaries: Gently explain when you need to focus on other tasks.
• Use Active Listening: Give them dedicated, undivided attention, which may satisfy their need to be heard.
• Use Games: Utilize timers to encourage "quiet time" and reward positive, calm behavior. 

Conclusion

A talkative child is usually a sign of a healthy, engaged mind. Rather than trying to stop the talking, it is best to guide them on how to communicate effectively in different contexts.

Source: Google.

THE TEACHINGS OF A SAINT.

During the late 1980s, I was working in a chemical company situated in the southern part of Tamil Nadu. The management took great interest in religious activities also. There was a beautiful Vinayakar temple, an auditorium, recreation club and a guest house within the premises. Eminent personalities were regularly invited to give lectures on various subjects. 

His Holiness Shri Bheerth Swamigal, Sankaracharya of Shri Sringeri Mutt was once invited to give a lecture. The program was scheduled to start at 6 PM in the auditorium. All the people assembled on time. As per custom, men, while visiting a temple or a religious head, were not supposed to wear a dress above their waist.

The swami's voice was reverberating in the hall. After the prayer, he said, " for those who are performing their duties without like or dislike, those who are making their parents happy, those who are helping the poor to their might, and those who are worshiping God daily, I have nothing to preach. They are already fulfilling the purpose for which they are born".

I remembered, my father also told me the very same words when I was young. I have been trying to practice these principles in my life for a very long time. I was wondering how my father was able to give similar advice like that of the great saint.

TABLE MANNERS.

1. One must follow good manners while attending dinner. If you are the host, you must eat at the end. If you are a guest, you must eat after being invited to eat.

2. Before commencing to eat, you must pray to the Lord and thank him.

3. You must keep your lips closed while chewing. You should not make incorrigible noises while chewing. You must put the food inside the mouth and not on the protruded tongue.

4. Some people have a tendency to talk aloud while eating and disturb others. This is very bad.

5. Just because you like a particular item or because an item is tasty, you should not eat only that item. You must eat all the items fairly.

6. When food is served,  you should accept only what you can eat. You should not waste food. Remember many poor people are deprived of food.

7. Even if it is your own house, you must eat only after being offered. You should not eat on your own.

8. Some are crazy to eat. The taste remains only until it is on the tongue. Once it goes inside the mouth, it becomes different.

WATERMELON.

Watermelon regardless of the darkness of its blue/green skin—can cause diarrhea if consumed in excess. 

The potential for digestive issues is not due to the color of the rind, but rather the nutritional components of the fruit itself. 

Why Watermelon Causes Diarrhea:

• High Fructose Content:Watermelon is high in fructose, a natural sugar that some people struggle to absorb, leading to fermentation in the gut and subsequent diarrhea, gas, and bloating.
• High FODMAP Food: It is considered a high FODMAP food (fermentable short-chain carbohydrates), which often triggers digestive discomfort in people with irritable bowel syndrome (IBS).
• High Water Content: Eating large amounts of water-dense food can temporarily overwhelm your system, causing loose stools.
• Sorbitol: Watermelon contains sorbitol, a sugar compound known to encourage loose stools. 

Tips for Consumption:

• Moderate Intake: For most healthy adults, 1-2 cups per day is considered a safe amount to avoid digestive issues.
• Avoid on Empty Stomach: Eating large amounts of watermelon on an empty stomach may increase the risk of digestive irritation.
• Check for Sensitivity: If you have IBS or a sensitive stomach, you may need to limit your intake to avoid symptoms. 
• If you experience persistent diarrhoea after eating watermelon, it is advisable to reduce your consumption and consult a healthcare provider, as it may indicate an underlying sensitivity to fructose.

Source: Google.

Random thoughts 3411 to 3425.

3411. One can hurt others by his words or by his actions or even by keeping silence. But the biggest hurt is just ignoring the other.

3412. Many people are not aware that the ideal bathing soap should have a PH of 5.5. Most of the soaps do not even indicate the PH.

3413. Previously Tamil cinema was copying English movies. Now English movies are copying Tamil movies. One Battle After Another.

3414. We cannot exactly write in Tamil what we  speak in English. Similarly, we cannot write exactly in English what we speak in Tamil.

3415. Behind every successful child, there stands a hard working parent who gave twice as much, cried in silence and never gave up.

3416. If a beautiful girl walks towards you and if your wife asks you is she not beautiful, you should not agree or disagree but you should ask who?

3417. When the flood comes, the fish eats the ants. When the drought comes, the ants eat the fish. Opportunity comes to everyone.

3418. With the imposition of $1,00,000, the intelligent will remain in India making life tough for the average and below average.

3419. Life does not take us where we want to go. It takes us where we should go. That is the wrong assumption we make in life.

3420. Hand dryers in public washrooms suck the air from the same washrooms. Using them increase the chances of getting sick.

3421. Being active, lively, organised, responsible, hardworking, thorough or helpful may have a higher chances of a longer life.

3422. Nothing destroys you faster than your ego. Don’t think too much of yourself. You can control nothing. Protect your peace.

3423. Never forget those people who brought a lamp when you were in the dark and sat with you until you could understand.

3424. People don't hear their snoring because brain relaxes during sleep and becomes less sensitive to sounds, produced internally.

3425. Snoring doesn't travel to ears in same manner as outside noises as it originates in throat, and is is often masked by external noises.

IT HAPPENED ON THE TRAIN.

Hi friends,

Chennai Express runs daily from Secunderabad to Chennai. It starts at 5 PM and reaches Chennai at 6 AM the next morning. I always prefer that train as I will be able to attend to my work on landing. I did not expect the journey on that day would turn out to be a memorable one.

Myself and my wife were seated in the middle. Another aged couple was seated near the window. I was 68 and my wife was 65. They were also of the same age. Just to begin a conversation, I inquired whether the people who came to see them off were his son's family. 

He agreed. I said his DIL seemed to be a good girl. He agreed again and asked how I guessed. I told him I could guess from her looks, from how she talks, and from her body language. Normally, only the son would come. If the DIL also came, it was special and it showed her attachment to her husband and his people.

He wondered whether I was a psychologist. He said he liked me and wanted to discuss a personal problem. He had retired as secretary in Tamil Nadu govt. He lived in Perambur in Chennai. He had his own house on two grounds. 

He had only three sons. The son at Hyd was the eldest and the other two were in Chennai. All the three were well educated, working in IT, and were earning a fabulous salary. All were happily married with one child each and were living separately.

He was getting a pension of 15000 PM. He visited them on rotation and his life was going smooth. The eldest son and DIL showed attachment to them but the other two sons and DILs were indifferent. 

Now, their two younger sons wanted him to sell his house and give their share so that they could invest in a flat. His wife was in favour of them. He was in a dilemma and he was unable to decide. He requested me to give him a solution. 

I said it was time to go to bed and I would think it over and give a reply in the morning. I too was in a similar predicament. In spite of my best efforts, I could not arrive at a solution. A father should be fair to his children and also to his wife who had lived with him all his life. 

To take a decision in the apportionment of his properties, he should have a fair and balanced view. I was deprived of sleep that night trying to find a solution. I got up at 5 AM, brushed and washed, and came back to my seat. 

My friend who had already got up asked me for the solution before the train reached Chennai. On inquiry, he said it was self-acquired property, he had insurance but he had not written a Will, I suggested as under. 

1. "Write a WILL immediately. Otherwise, your wife will get only 1/4th share. Mention clearly that all your property should only go to your wife after your lifetime. Only after her lifetime, your children should share as per the Will. 

2. If any son had given you any cash, return it to him. You apportion the balance of cash and jewels equally among them. 

3. Regarding the house, do not sell it now. After your lifetime, your wife would get half a pension and she should have a place to stay. If she rented, she can also have the rent. She should have some backing. Then only people will respect her. 

4. After her lifetime, the sons can stay or share the rent. The majority of them shall decide about selling or modifying the house. If they decide to sell/modify the house, mention it very clearly, that after adjusting incidental expenses, each son shall get a 30% share totaling 90%. 

5. The balance of 10% shall go to the first son who takes care of you. If the other two are also kind to you, authorize the first son to give them their share from 10%.". 

6. "A handwritten Will by you on plain paper is called holographic will which does not require registration nor witness. Give a copy of the Will to each of them to understand. 

7. The current market value of your house is about 6 crores and 10% works out to 60 lacs. No fool would like to lose it. They will definitely take care of you both. 

8. Whenever you stay with them, compensate their expenses on you by way of giving gifts to the DIL. Your life will be happy and peaceful ".

The train reached Chennai and he thanked me for giving a solution and I had the satisfaction of helping a person in dilemma.

எண்ணமும் செயலும்.

ஒருவருடைய செயல் சரியா அல்லது தவறா என்று கண்டு பிடிக்கஅவருடைய என்ணத்தையும் செயலையும் பார்க்க வேண்டும். இரண்டில்எண்ணம் மிகவும் முக்கியம்.

1. நல்ல எண்ணத்துடன் கூடிய நல்ல செயல் எப்போதும் சரியானது.

2. நல்ல எண்ணத்துடன் கூடிய தவறான செயலும் சரியானதே.

உ-ம் ;ஒரு பெண்ணின் அருகே ஒரு தேள் வருகிறது. அவளைக் காப்பாற்றஅவள் கையை பற்றி இழுக்கிறாய். செயல் தவறாக இருந்தாலும் எண்ணம்சரியாக இருக்கிறது. அதனால் அந்தச் செயல் சரியானதே.

3. தவறான எண்ணத்துடன் செய்யும் நல்ல செயல் தவறானதே.

உ-ம்: உன்னிடம் மிகவும் அழுக்கான ரூபாய் நோட்டு இருக்கிறது. அதையாரும் வாங்க மறுக்கிறார்கள். அதை ஒரு பிச்சைக்காரனுக்கு போடுகிறாய். பிச்சை போடுவது நல்ல செயல். ஆனால் எண்ணம் தவறானது. அதனால்அந்த செயலும் தவறானதே.

4. தவறான எண்ணத்துடன் கூடிய தவறான செயல் எப்போதும் தவறானதே.