LOGGERHEADS ( Disagreement)

Some parents give full freedom to their children after marriage. Some interfere in all their activities. This is only for parents who are always at loggerheads with their children. Others can also read. 

1. Your child will treat you in the same way as you treated your parents.

2. The love of the parent should be more than that of the children.

3. They love their children as you loved your children. Is it wrong?

4. As you were the boss of your home, they are the boss of their home.

5. You lived your life as per your wish. They live as per their wish.

6. They are not your equals. You are far superior to them.

7. What are you going to achieve by winning over your own children?

8. Ultimately you are going to give your assets only to your children.

9. The parent should know who is at greater risk in case of separation.

10. Who will take care of you if both of you are bedridden?

11. What is the guarantee that you will be happy in an old age home?

12. Suppose you come back for a compromise what will you do?

13. It is always better to adjust and accept as it is beneficial for both.

14. After all, they are your children only and why do you fight?

15. So talk less, talk lovingly, talk consciously, talk relevantly.

HOW I MOVE WITH OTHERS !!!

1. I am friendly to everyone. I do not develop misunderstanding, nor I argue, nor I fight with others.

2. When I am talking to someone, at one stage, my instinct tells me that there will be an argument if we proceed further. At that stage, I stop talking further.

3. If I find the information given by another person is not correct, I won't tell him that he is wrong.

4. If anyone says that my information is not correct, I will agree with him and I will not try to prove I am correct.

5. When another person is talking to me, I am attentive to him. To look elsewhere or to attend to any other work is like insulting him.

6. When I talk to anyone, I always observe whether he is attentive. If not I stop talking and attend to any other work.

7. If I do not agree with what another person says, I will consider him ignorant and look at him sympathetically.

8. When I am talking to someone, if someone intervenes, I shall stop talking and leave the place to attend to other work.

9. In case I have a misunderstanding with another person inadvertently, I think about it seriously.

10. Within an hour, I will know if I am wrong. Immediately I will seek his apology.

11. If I am not wrong, I will wait for 24 hours within which he should seek my apology.

12. If not, I will not fight with him. I will disassociate and I will have no further contacts with him.

MY BLOG.

I am 81. I have been posting articles and snippets on this blog for more than ten years since January 2016. 

I have so far posted 1200 articles and 6000 snippets in English and Tamil.

The articles are mostly based on my life experiences and also from other sources which I find useful for the reader.

The readership so far is around 1,46,000. It is mostly from India and USA. The daily readership is around 50 to 60. 

I do not post on controversial subjects like politics, religious matters, medical tips etc.

I am a pebble on the shores. I am a bubble on the whirlpool. I am a dust in the storm. I am nothing.

I take this opportunity to thank you one and all for the excellent support given to me. 

நமஸ்காரம் புனிதமானது.

1. நமஸ்காரம் பண்ணுவதின் தத்துவம் சரணாகதி. நமஸ்காரம் பண்ணும்அளவுக்கு தகுதி உள்ள ஒருவரை, எதிர்ப்பது, மரியாதை இல்லாமல் பேசுவதுகூடாது.

2. நமஸ்காரம் புனிதமானது. நமஸ்காரம் செய்ய வேண்டிய இடத்தில்வணக்கம் சொல்லிப் பலனில்லை. வணக்கம் சொல்லும் இடத்தில்நமஸ்காரம் செய்வது தவறு

3. தாய் தந்தையை நமஸ்காரம் செய்யும் போது, நமது நெற்றிஅவர்களுடைய பாதத்தில் நன்கு படும்படி வைத்து மனப்பூர்வமாக நமஸ்காரம்செய்ய வேண்டும்

4. நமஸ்காரம் கிழக்கு, மேற்கு திசையில் செய்ய வேண்டும். வடக்கு பார்த்துசெய்யக் கூடாது. பித்ருக்களுக்கு தெற்கு பார்த்து செய்ய வேண்டும்.

5. அண்ணனின் மனைவி [மன்னி] நம்மை விட வயது குறைந்தவராகஇருந்தாலும் அண்ணனுடன் சேர்ந்து நின்று அவர்களை நமஸ்காரம் செய்யவேண்டியது முறை.

6.திருமணமானவர்கள் முடிந்த வரையில் தம்பதிகளாக, தம்பதிகளைநமஸ்கரிக்க வேண்டும். ஆண் இடது புறமும், பெண் வலது புறமும் இருக்கவேண்டும்.

7. கோயிலில் இறைவனை நமஸ்காரம் செய்யும் போது, துவஜஸ்தம்பத்துக்குப் பின்புறம் தான் நமஸ்காரம் செய்ய வேண்டும். நடுவில்செய்யக் கூடாது.

8. கோயிலில் இறைவனை மட்டும் தான் நமஸ்காரம் செய்ய வேண்டும். வேறு யாரையும் எந்தக் காரணம் கொண்டும் நமஸ்காரம் செய்யக் கூடாது. அது பாபம்.

9. தாய், தந்தை, ஆசிரியர், தெய்வம், மாமனார், மாமியார், அண்ணா, மன்னிதவிர யாரையும் நமஸ்காரம் செய்ததில்லை.எனக்கு செய்வதைவிரும்புவதில்லை.

CAT ON THE WALL / மதில் மேல் பூனை !!!!

1. I am apolitical. But I very well know politics. I write this, with a lot of concern for the thousands of youth, who are going behind the political party, wasting their precious time.

2. Politics is like a cat on the wall. No one can predict which side it will jump. Similarly, in politics how the alliance between the parties will be finalized will not be known to anyone. Even the leader of the party may not know. So there is no point in discussing now the elections.

3. When the alliance for the election is finalized, you will like one of the parties. You may not like the other party. You cannot do anything. What decision will you take then? It is difficult to decide. In the election, you will only vote for the party you like.

4. That is why I say, you wait patiently for the elections to be over. If the party you like wins the elections you feel happy. Afterward, if you are an expert in economics, you may raise questions when the Govt takes steps in the wrong direction. Am I correct?

1. நான் அரசியல் சார்பு இல்லாதவன். ஆனால் எனக்கு அரசியல் நன்றாகத் தெரியும். ஆயிரக்கணக்கான இளைஞர்கள் தங்கள் வேலைகளை விட்டுவிட்டு அரசியல் கட்சிகளின் பின்னால் போகிறார்களே என்ற ஆதங்கத்தில் இதை எழுதுகிறேன்.

2. அரசியல் என்பது மதில் மேல் பூனை போன்றது. எந்தப் பக்கம் தாவும் என்று தெரியாது. எந்தக் கட்சி யாருடன் கூட்டு வைத்துக் கொள்ளும் என்று தெரியாது. யாராலும் சொல்லவும் முடியாது. ஏன், கட்சித் தலைவருக்கே தெரியாது. அதனால் இப்போது தேர்தலைப் பற்றி விவாதம் செய்வதால் பலனில்லை.

3. தேர்தல் உடன்பாடு வந்த பிறகு, அதில் ஒரு கட்சியை உங்களுக்குப் பிடிக்கும், இன்னொரு கட்சியைப் பிடிக்காது. உங்களால் ஒன்றும் செய்ய முடியாது. அப்போது என்ன முடிவு எடுப்பீர்கள்? கஷ்டமான விஷயம் தான். தேர்தலில் ஓட்டுப் போடும்போது உங்களுக்குப் பிடித்த கட்சிக்கு ஓட்டுப் போடுவீர்கள்.

4. அதனால் தான் சொல்கிறேன், தேர்தல் நடந்து முடியும் வரை பொறுமையாகக் காத்திருங்கள். நீங்கள் ஓட்டுப் போட்ட கட்சி ஜெயித்தால் சந்தோஷப் படுங்கள். அதன் பிறகு நீங்கள் பொருளாதாரத்தில் பெரிய திறமைசாலியாக இருந்தால், அரசு செய்யும் தவறான செயல்களுக்கு  எதிர்ப்புத் தெரிவியுங்கள். என்ன, நான் சொல்வது சரிதானே?

Random thoughts 3501 to 3515.

3501. Our sufferings account for the sins we have committed. Our happiness accounts for the good deeds we have done.

3502. Horses can detect fear in humans by smell, according to a study published in the journal PLOS One.

3503. "Bhagvad Gita and Quran never fight in library. But, ironically those who fight over them are those who never went to library,"

3504. “To save 50 rupees, walking for 30 minutes and to save 30 minutes, spending 50 rupees” is called generation gap.

3505. The mother sees the first breath of her child. The child sees her last. She chose the child’s first dress. The child chose her last. She got her child’s birth certificate. The child got her death certificate.

3506. A person weighing 50 kg on Earth would weigh around 19 kg on Mercury and Mars, 45.5 kg on Venus, 126 kg on Jupiter, 53 kg on Saturn, 44.5 kg on Uranus, and 56 kg on Neptune. Saturn's gravity is close to Earth's despite its massive size.

3507. For one day, Mercury takes 1,408 hours, Venus takes 5,832 hours. Earth 24-hours and Mars 25 hours. Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune taking 10 hours, 11 hours, 17 hours and 16 hours, respectively.

3508. Hindi is spoken by 52.83 crore people (43.63%) Bengali 9.72 crore (8.03%). Marathi by 8.30 crore (6.86%), Telugu by 8.11 crore (6.70%), and Tamil by 6.90 crore (5.70%).

3509. Venus is hottest at 464°C, Mercury at 167°C. Earth 15°C, Mars is at -65°C, Jupiter and Saturn -110°C and -140°C, Uranus at -195°C and Neptune at -200°C.

3510. The 2-2-2 rule is that a couple should go out for a night every 2 weeks, a weekend every 2 months, and a week-long vacation every 2 years.

3511. People who love us will never leave us because they will have one reason or the other to hold on to us .

3512. There are lots of differences between a human being and being a human. Only experience will make us understand.

3513. We are loved when we were born. We will be loved when we die. In between we will have to make people love us.

3514. If we want to walk fast, we should walk alone. If we want to walk far off we should walk together.

3515. Mercury and Venus have no moons, Earth has one. Mars has two. Jupiter, has 95. Saturn, has 274 moons. Uranus has 28 Neptune has 16.