Who is to leave the world first?

Many married women pray to God to bless them to leave the world prior to their husband [as Sumangali with the sacred thread]. Is it fair on their part to make such a request? It is a debatable question and I wish to say my views on this issue. 

Man is respected until he earns and the woman until she works. In our society, the social stigma attached to a woman after losing her husband makes it difficult for her to lead a decent life when compared to the life of a man after losing his wife. 

Secondly, both of them lose their independence once they are at the mercy of somebody. If the woman is healthy she can manage for some time but the man cannot unless he is accustomed to the domestic chores.

Thirdly different couples express their love in different ways. Some by smiling, some by kissing, some by hugging and some by holding and some by chiding. It depends on their understanding. Old people normally express their love by controlling the other.

How it will look if the wife says she expects her husband to leave first? It will look awkward. Only to show her love for the husband, she wants to leave first. She wants her husband to live long and enjoy life with children and grandchildren.  

The taste of the pudding is in the flour. The quality of life is in living. If one leads a perfect life, loving and caring, all people will definitely reciprocate. There is nothing to worry whether the person is single or couple.

யார் பிராமணர் ?

பிராமணர் என்பது ஒரு ஜாதி என்று பலர் தவறாக நினைத்துக் கொண்டுஇருக்கிறார்கள். அது ஒரு வாழ்க்கை முறை. 

மஹாபாரதத்தில் தர்மபுத்திரர் நச்சுப் பொய்கை என்ற பகுதியில் கூறுகிறார், "பிறப்பால் ஒருவன் பிராமணன் ஆக மாட்டான். நல்ல குணத்தாலே தான் ஒருவன் பிராமணன் ஆவான்" என்கிறார்.

பல ஆண்டு காலமாக அவர்களுக்கு நல்ல குணங்களை அடைவதற்கு பயிற்சி அளிக்கப் பட்டு இருக்கிறது. பலர் அந்தப் பயிற்சியில் வெற்றி அடைந்து இருக்கிறார்கள். பலர் தோல்வியும் அடைந்து இருக்கிறார்கள்.

வெற்றி அடைந்தவர்கள்  பிராமணர். வெற்றி அடையாதவர்கள்  பிராமணர்இல்லை. அந்த நல்ல குணங்கள் பின் வருமாறு: 

1. பிச்சை புகினும் கற்கை நன்றே என்பது ஆன்றோர் வாக்கு. கல்வியின் முக்கியத்தைக் கூறுகிறது. கல்வி கற்ப்பதால் அறிவு வளரும்.

2. விருப்பு வெறுப்பு இல்லாமல் ஒருவர் தன்னுடைய கடமைகளைச் செய்யவேண்டும். கடமைகளில் இருந்து எப்போதும் தவறக் கூடாது.

3. எந்த நிலையிலும் தாய் தந்தையைக் காப்பாற்ற வேண்டும். அவர்கள் மனம் கோணும்படி  நடக்கக் கூடாது. அவர்கள் சந்தோஷம் முக்கியம்..

4. எப்போதும் உண்மையே பேச வேண்டும். விளையாட்டுக்குக் கூட பொய்பேசக் கூடாது. உண்மை பேசுவதால் மனத் தைரியம் உண்டாகும்.

5. யாரையும் வார்த்தையால், செயலால் மனம் புண் படும் படி நடக்கக்கூடாது. அவர்கள் மன வருத்தம் நம்மை பாதிக்கும்.

6. தான் கற்ற கல்வியை மற்றவர்களுக்குக் கற்பிக்க  வேண்டும். அதனால் சமுதாயம் மேம்படும். கற்ற கல்வி மறந்து போகாமல் இருக்கும்.

7. சுய மரியாதை முக்கியம். யார் தயவிலும் ஒருவர் இருக்கக் கூடாது. அடிமைஎண்ணத்தை வளர்க்கும். தன்னம்பிக்கை குறையும்.

8. வயதில் மூத்த பெரியவர்களை மதிக்க வேண்டும். அவர்கள் சொற் படி கேட்க வேண்டும். அவர்கள் ஆசீர்வாதம் நன்மை பயக்கும்.

9. தெய்வ நம்பிக்கை வேண்டும். தினமும் காலையும் மாலையும் குளித்துவிட்டு  இறைவனைத் தொழ வேண்டும். மன நிம்மதி கிடைக்கும்.

10.  வன்முறையை அறவே தவிர்க்க வேண்டும். இது வாழ்க்கையின்அடிப்படைத் தத்துவம். அதனால் எந்தப் பலனும் கிடையாது.

11. மது, மாது, புகை பிடித்தல் போன்ற கெட்ட பழக்கங்கள் எதுவும் இல்லாமல்நேர்மையான வாழ்க்கை வாழ வேண்டும்.

12. மாமிச உணவுகளை உண்ணக் கூடாது. அது பாவமான செயல். தாவரஉணவுகளை மட்டும் உண்ண வேண்டும்.

இப்போது புரிந்ததா. இந்தக் குணங்களெலாம் யாரிடம் இருக்கிறதோ அவர்பிராமணர். அப்படி இல்லை என்றால் அவர் பிராமணர் இல்லை.

How I move with others!!!!

1. I am friendly to everyone. I do not develop misunderstanding, nor I argue, nor I fight with others.

2. When I am talking to someone, at one stage, my instinct tells me that there will be an argument if we proceed further. At that stage, I stop talking further.

3. If I find the information given by another person is not correct, I won't tell him that he is wrong.

4. If anyone says that my information is not correct, I will agree with him and I will not try to prove I am correct.

5. When another person is talking to me, I am attentive to him. To look elsewhere or to attend to any other work is like insulting him.

6. When I talk to anyone, I always observe whether he is attentive. If not I stop talking and attend to any other work.

7. If I do not agree with what another person says, I will consider him ignorant and look at him sympathetically.

8. When I am talking to someone, if someone intervenes, I shall stop talking and leave the place to attend to other work.

9. In case I have a misunderstanding with another person inadvertently, I think about it seriously.

10. Within an hour, I will know if I am wrong. Immediately I will seek his apology.

11. If I am not wrong, I will wait for 24 hours within which he should seek my apology.

12. If not, I will not fight with him. I will disassociate and I will have no further contacts with him.

TABLE MANNERS.

1. One must follow good manners while attending dinner. If you are the host, you must eat along with the guests and not before. If you are a guest, you must eat after being invited to eat.

2. Before commencing to eat, you must pray to the Lord and thank him for providing the food.

3. You must keep your lips closed while chewing. You should not make incorrigible noises while chewing. You must put the food inside the mouth and not on the tongue protruded.

4. Some people have a tendency to talk aloud while eating and disturb others. This is very bad.

5. Just because you like a particular item or because an item is tasty, you should not eat only that item. You must eat all the items fairly and equally.

6. When food is served,  you should not accept items what you don’t like and waste food. Remember there are many poor people who are deprived of food.

7. Even if it is your own house, you must eat only after being offered. You should not eat on your own.

8. Some are crazy to eat. The taste remains only until it is on the tongue. Once it goes inside the mouth, it becomes different.