WHOSE RESPONSIBILITY IS IT?

Hi, friends,

There are four divisions in the ruling of the country. They are:

1.The Legislature makes the law

2.The Administration executes the law

3.The Judiciary supervises the execution of the law.

4.The Media is the watchdog.

The general public is employed in every one of the above as well as they are outside also. If everyone attends to their business and allows the system to run as per law then there will be smooth functioning of the system and there will be NO corruption. 70 years ago it was like that and there was no black money.

Generally, Judiciary and Media are considered to be corrupt-free. Only the legislature and administration are considered to be corrupt. The administration is the major source of corruption helped by the legislature. Both of them go hand in glove.

1. The general public, when they want to get anything to be done early by the govt. without waiting for the normal time, they bribe the administrator. There enters cancer called corruption. By getting it done early they could make more money.

2. The general public consists of rich/poor, educated/uneducated, employed/unemployed, business/nonbusiness, professional/nonprofessional. Their income varies from person to person. If they consider what they earn/get is what they DESERVE then there is no problem. They will work hard to earn more.

Instead, they want to LIVE THE LIFE of the more fortunate. There enters cancer. They need more money and they become GREEDY. They want to make easy money and corruption grows.

If the general public [ you and I ] lead a perfectly normal life within our income as advised by our forefathers there will not be any corruption in our country.  MAY GOD BLESS YOU.

MOTHER OR WIFE?

Hi friends,

For some people, the mother is important. For some, the wife is important. For some, both are important. Funny things happen in our life. We remember some and we forget most of them. An interesting incident happened in our family when I was just ten and my father was 39.

My father had lost his father when he was 11. He was brought up by his mother. She had six children of whom my father was the last. She was very strict, orthodox, tonsured her head after the death of her husband, wore only a white saree, did pooja and Japam daily. 

No one should physically touch her until she finished her daily rituals. My father had a lot of love, affection, respect, and regard for his mother. To make her happy was one of his ambitions in life. He never failed to do anything to please her.

Taking this to her advantage, my grandmother used to complain about everyone in the family who did not dance to her tunes and got punishment for them. My father never ate anything outside and when he returned home from the office he was hungry as well as angry. 

The grandmother complained only about his return from the office so that the punishment was severe. One day my mother became the victim. When the grandmother complained about her, my father got furious, took a stick, held my mother at her wrist, pulled her inside the bedroom, closed the doors, and started thrashing her. 

All the children were bewildered and cursed the grandmother. My mother was screaming inside the bedroom and my father was shouting furiously. After some time, both of them came out. My mother quietly went inside the kitchen and my father threw the stick on the floor and sat on the sofa looking tired. 

At that time, you know what my grandmother said, "Dey Nana if you hit the pillow hard it would tear away. I know this trick. Your father had done this to me so many times. You can't fool me around". My father was both a devoted son as well as a loving husband.

THE DIFFICULTIES IN WRITING

Hi friends,

Please take a piece of paper and try writing a few lines in any language on your own. Then only you will understand the difficulties in writing. It is not as easy as everyone thinks. A lot of effort is to be put in to be a successful writer. Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches.

To begin with, I have to arrive at a concept that is of interest to the reader. It may take time. I have to think until the plot germinates. Then I develop it into a write-up in my mind. I start typing the draft. The words must flow. I am not an expert in typing. It takes time. My eyesight is also failing.

The real work begins only after the draft is ready. First, I have to look at the narration. The narration should flow in order. Then paraphrasing. It should be divided into paragraphs for the reader to find it easy while reading. Then I have to design the passage. ie shortening or lengthening wherever it is necessary.

Then comes the grammar. If it is grammatically wrong the reader may not appreciate it. Usage of the language is more important. Proper words should be used in proper places. The beauty of the language lies in the usage of words. Using bombastic words may not win the reader. A simple language is always liked.

After attending to all these aspects, the draft is checked for spelling mistakes. Then the first copy is run. It is checked again and again. A good writer will always find corrections to be made every time. He won't be satisfied. That is the beauty of writing. He never gets satisfied with his own work and feels it can still be improved.

It also gives more insights into a better understanding of the language, A writer should also be a good reader. Grammar, vocabulary, sentence formation, sequential flow of ideas, analysis of target readers, and holding on to the concepts are some of the aspects that play a key role in making a good article.

Writing an article is like delivering a baby. For a short article, it takes about three hours. For a longer one, it takes about 6 to 7 hours. For writing a book it takes months. A writer suffers a lot to bring out his product. I am not a professional writer. I scribble something​ ​that occurs to my mind​,​ not with any intention of educating others. I am a novice and I write ​as a pastime.

You are welcome to read my articles and post your​ ​comments, of course​ ​without any disrespectful remarks. With your blessings and support, I am able to reach this level. Therefore, I request your support by "liking" and "sharing" my articles with your friends. Otherwise, I have no other alternative but to stop writing. Thank you all once again. MAY GOD BLESS YOU.

YOUR CHILD MAKES YOU HAPPY

Hi friends,

Only the children make their parents.  They are created by God. They are innocent, timid, immature, friendly, and adorable. Children will remove all our stress. Everyone has a way to bring up his child. The child has to grow physically, mentally, and intellectually. It will take time and you will have to be patient. Once you are successful in bringing up your child on the right track, you will be happy forever.

1. NO BEATING THE KIDS: If you beat your child for their mistakes you are not human. It will only develop a revenge attitude in the child and wait for the opportune time to give it back to you. Once it grows stronger than you, it will start beating you. Much lower-level parents are suffering due to this.

2. TALK TO THEM: The secret lies in the way how you talk to your kids. The children take everything literally and the way you talk to them goes a long way in building their personalities. As a parent, sometimes we say things that we don't really mean, but the damage has already been done.

3. YOU ARE A BAD CHILD: Negative talks kill self-esteem. They are innocent and believe in goodness. Tell them to be good. Explain what is bad and how it hurts others. Tell them that they are the best and they will love you and will never let you down. Teach them right and wrong and to value good things.

4. SAY NO TO "NO": No is rejection. It is too harsh. They don't expect it from you. They lose confidence in you. Instead of saying a blunt no give them options to choose. Put it in pleasant words to make them understand and love you. At the same time, it is your responsibility to see that they are not spoiled.

5. DON'T TALK TO ME: Most people think that the child will obey if they say "don't talk to me" You are only closing the communication. You are not educating them. They are not grown-ups like you. Allow them to share with you. Tell them the importance. Convince with your words, tone and actions. Keep talking till they buy your point. You may keep a sad face and they will come to you.

6. NO COMPARISON: Never compare with others especially with another brother or sister or friend. This will never give any positive result. They only become jealous and start disliking the sibling. They feel dejected and lose confidence in themselves.

7. LEAVE ME ALONE: You may be busy. But the kid won't understand it. He may like your company and to be with you. You are everything to your child. Never ask them to leave you. Be patient and explain to them how you are busy and when you will be free. Share with them and make them understand that you are busy and how important it is for you.

8. I DON'T LIKE YOU: A child is not born as a problem child. They are replica of the parents. They learn maximum from you. They also learn from family, friends, and surroundings. If the children are problematic blame yourself. For problematic children, parents should be more patient and understanding.

9. "YOU CAN'T DO THIS": This is pure discouragement. Some children may like to do something but they may not be able to do it. It may be due to physical or intellectual inability. Just give them more chances. Or you may even join with them and do it together until they are capable of doing it by themselves. Otherwise, they will never take the initiative.

10. ONLY GIRLS/BOYS DO THAT: This is gender bias. Anyone can do anything. They are only learning. Do not stop them from exploring things. If a boy likes to help his mother to cut vegetables encourage him. Similarly for girls. Knowledge is important and that is real growth. Otherwise, it is only physical growth that is of no value in life.

11. I WILL REPORT TO DADDY:  It instills anxiety and fear in the child. It shows you are incapable of handling the situation. The kid might have done something unintentionally or irresponsibly. If you want to report to your spouse, ask the kid about his opinion and if he is willing to go with you, do not threaten him by referring to daddy. The point is, the kid should understand his mistake.

12. ONLY KIDS DO THIS: Your child may be a grown-up one. Out of enthusiasm, he may do something. Don't say that only kids do it and not grown-ups like you. Please understand he gets some pleasure out of it. You may even join him. If he jumps with joy for something, instead of chiding him, you may also join with him and jump.

13. MORE CARE FOR THE GIRL: The girls are different anatomically, physically, mentally, intellectually, emotionally, and psychologically. At the opportune time, it is for her mother [and not the father] to teach her the nuances of living the life of a girl. There is no point in repenting later.

14. FINAL POINT: Many people are praying to God to give them a child. You are the blessed one. You must view the child, not as an adult. The ultimate goal is not in its intellectual brilliance. It is how much the child loves you, adores you, likes to be with you. You must make the child love you till your end. That is a success.

COMMENTS

Vijayalakshmi B	5:08 PM (14 hours ago)
to me

The article is nice. I think you can publish it.  In modern days, most of the young parents follow most of the things mentioned by you. 

But they may also have different opinions, beliefs, and their own practice, in their day-to-day life,on certain situations.. If they want, they may pick up something from yours if they believe in it, and it may help them.

Viji

Gowri Ramkumar	8:53 AM (1 hour ago)
to me

Dear Mama,

Thanks for sharing.

The points are all good.  Most parents of today are overly protective and over-attentive to their kids.  They don't want to hurt the kids in any way and give the kids everything they want even before they ask.  

Nevertheless, all the points are good.  

I will also take some of the points that you mention and will incorporate in my life as well.

Lots of love,

Gowri

Vidya Anand	11:09 AM (31 minutes ago)
to me

Dear Mama,

The article is a very informative and practical approach to bringing up children.

Though some are difficult to follow...mostly because I am impatient...I will try to do most of it. Many a time I resolve to change myself but it lasts for a short while.

Thanks for sharing it with me. You should probably pick a nice topic, write a book and get it published.

Hope your tummy is OK nowadays

Warm regards to Manni, Surya Anu, and love to Sahara

Yours affectionately,

Vidhu

INTERNSHIP WITH THE INTERNET.

Hi friends,

The Internet has a far-reaching effect on ​daily ​life. At the click of the mouse, one can find ​an​ answer. There is no need to go to the library and refer to books. I learned ​to use ​it myself on my laptop. I wish to share with you how I overcome a physical ailment using the Internet.

​In Chennai, I had​ family doctors. ​In​ Hyderabad, I do not know doctors and also Telugu. I can only go to hospitals. But ​they make me​  undergo various tests costing thousands.  Recently, I spent 4000/ for cold. As I am likely to get ailments due to old age, I decided to refer to the Internet as a trial and for first aid.

For the past 2 to 3 months my stomach has ​become sensitive​. I suffer from indigestion, sulfur burp, bloating, diarrhea, etc. ​It occurs mostly in the night affecting sleep. All home remedies have no effect. I have lost weight also. My digestive system is affected and I do not know what to do. 

I cannot travel, visit people, attend functions, go out with children, eat outside food, and I have to confine myself at home and be content with curd rice. It is very difficult to control oneself when others are enjoying it. They sympathized with me but they cannot ​forego​ food for me.   

I decided to check with the Internet ​for​ a remedy. Our digestive system is controlled by ​bacteria​. The good bacteria help in digestion and the bad ​one ​creates problems. ​The good bacteria control the bad ones to maintain health. Taking antibiotics, destroy the good bacteria ​and ​allow the bad ones to create health issues.

Probiotics contain good bacteria. I took one daily for 10 days. ​W​hen the good bacteria travels through the stomach, half of them get killed due to acidity. Only the rest reaches the colon for digestion

Prebiotics are a better alternative to probiotics. They contain indigestible fibers and helps good bacteria to grow. It withstands the acidity in the stomach. I took one daily for ten days. Digestion improved, diarrhea stopped, bloating disappeared. I develop a hunger and I​ eat​​ better. 

​I request ​doctors not ​to ​mistake me. It is not my intention to bypass them or ignore them. It is only​  learning from the Internet since it is a minor problem. In the case of serious ailments connected with vital organs, I shall not hesitate to go to a doctor​. MAY GOD BLESS YOU.

OUR FAMILY SONG

Hi friends,

You would have heard about the family doctor. Have you heard about a family song? We have a song in our family. We have sung this song for 2 generations. It is a special song. It was nearly 40 years back, in 1976,  when my daughter was born I was on cloud nine. I sang this song to make her sleep. I did not know how to sing then.

Holding her affectionately in both my arms, close to my chest, rocking her comfortably, and making an elephant walk across the room, staring pointedly at her eyes sensing her getting into sleep was a wonderful experience. You get it once in a lifetime.

Somehow I managed because I wanted my daughter to sleep. Though people used to make fun of me, my only concern was my daughter should sleep. I was happy my daughter slept. She did not object to my singing. My wife, who was a good singer also did not object. Then why bother? I was in full flow.

Four years later, in 1980, when my son was born, I sang the same song to make him sleep. He also slept well without any objection to my singing this song. Then 19 years later, in 1999, when my first grandson was born, I sang the same song. He also slept well without showing any disliking. 

Then 5 years later, in 2004, I sang the same song when my second grandson was born. No objection from him also. Then 4 years later, in 2008, I sang the same song when my granddaughter was born. She also did not have any objection.

Five different children at five different times had accepted and loved this song and that too from a nonsinger [novice]. That shows the quality of the song for its lyrics and music lasting 40 years. Hats off to MSV. My wholehearted thanks to him for helping me to make my children sleep. I still have nostalgia for this song. Do you want to listen? Here it is. Enjoy

Actually, he learned this song from his mother

OH, MY HEAD ESCAPED THE AXE

Hi friends,

In 2016, We decided to settle with our son in Hyderabad. We have a house in Chennai. We decided to sell the house and buy another one in Hyderabad. But black money is demanded both at the buying and selling ends. I do not want to lose peace of mind at my old age. I stood firmly rejecting the black money. MY HEAD ESCAPED THE AXE in the demonetization.

Black money is hidden in the form of currency, bullion, jewels, stocks, Benami holding, deposits in foreign banks, etc. The income tax department has to unearth the black money. Demonetization will not totally eradicate black money. It may help in bringing out black money held in the high denomination. 

In Jan 1946, currency notes 1000 and 10000 were withdrawn. In 1954, new notes 1000, 5000, and 10000 were introduced. In Jan 1978, notes of 1000, 5000, and 10000 were demonetized. Now in Nov 2016, there is demonetization. What is the effect? Are we free from black money? No, it is growing every day.

Previously only the super-rich was holding black money. Now everyone is having it. To help them, there are legal experts, chartered accountants, auditors, etc. who can interpret ten meanings for one sentence in the law. For strict enforcement, more staff, more salary, and more taxes will affect the poor.

We have lost our cultural and moral values. Chaos, anarchy, lawlessness, violence, corruption, black money, rape are the order of the day. People are greedy. A rickshaw wallah wants Levy jeans. Another wants BMW. A housewife wants a costly I-phone. Greed originates from the rich and passes on to the poor.

Everyone has a duty and responsibility to the nation and is expected to do it voluntarily. We should claim our rights only after performing our duties. When people fail to do their duty, black money generates. If all citizens pay their taxes voluntarily and lead a perfect life, there will be no black money.

PARAMACHARYA, our guru, had advocated that the rich should lead a simple life. There is a 10% growth in necessities and a 90% growth in luxuries. Our motto should be to go for the necessities, avoid the comforts, and forget the luxuries. MAY GOD BLESS YOU.