Monday, June 13, 2022

A BURNING PROBLEM

Previously, the men were working and the women were looking after the household work. After retirement, the boys' parents stayed with their son as a matter of right since they educated him, they had a right over his earnings, and he was their legal heir.

Presently, the women are also equally educated, employed and earning. Her parents also feel the same way as their counterparts. After retirement, they also want to settle with their daughter since women are now eligible for an equal share in their father's property.

How two swords can be in the same sheath? What is the solution to this burning problem? I suggest the following:

1. Both the parents can stay with their children, with some mutual understanding.

2. If not, they can stay with them on rotation.

3. Both the parents may take up a small flat and live near their children.

DO YOU HAVE ANY SOLUTION? 

RANDOM THOUGHTS 991 TO 1005

991. I am for women's education and empowerment but not for employment unless the family income is lower. It takes a heavy toll on their health.

992. My outfit is always white pyjamas, white innerwear, a white shirt and a white beard. So I need not have too many dresses and also worry about colour choices.

993. Empowerment is the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one's life and claiming one's rights.

994. Friend, you should never keep others money with you and you should never allow others to keep your money with them.

995. Bamboo is flexible, bending but never breaking up. It is resilience. We have to bounce back even from the most difficult times. 

996. A person can take a loan only for three purposes. They are 1. For owning a home. 2. For education and 3. For starting a business.

997. The last generation spent on necessities delayed the comforts and avoided the luxuries. This generation spends on luxuries, delays the comforts and avoids the necessities.

998. Since the days of Adam and Eve, the tussle between a man and a woman is who is the winner? Fortunately, neither of them has won. It is good for mankind.

999. When you have a right to claim, you also have a duty to perform. Therefore one should perform his duties before claiming his rights.

1000. Normally, dependent parents do not encourage love marriage as they want to select suitable girls. Whereas, independent parents do not interfere. 

1001. It is foolish to argue with fools. They will never understand or agree. They will stick only to their points. Instead, it is better to do something useful.

1002. God has given us only one stomach. But he has also given two hands to work and earn to feed the stomach. Then why bother in life?

1003. Do not worry about what you have lost. Be happy with what you have. You will get back, what you have lost, through sincere efforts.

1004. Can you keep normal when others in your family do things that are not to your liking? That means you are a fully realized person.

1005. No one is perfect. It is human to commit mistakes. The greatness lies in accepting it and not in disowning it. It teaches a lesson. 

Sunday, June 12, 2022

WHO ARE YOU?

After travelling long through a forest, Kalidasa reached a village. He felt very thirsty and looked around for water.

He saw an old woman drawing water from a well.

He went up to her and asked her for water. She agreed to give him water, but asked him to first introduce himself,*

WHO ARE YOU? "Introduce yourself.” 

Now Kalidasa, who was a renowned and revered scholar of his time, thought that an ordinary and old village woman was not worthy of knowing who great Kalidasa was.

So he said, I am a traveller.

But the old lady replied, “No, you cannot be a traveller. In this world, there are only 2 travellers the Sun and the Moon. Both Rise and Set every day and keep travelling perpetually.

WHO ARE YOU?

Thirsty Kalidasa said, “Alright then, treat me as a guest.”

The old lady promptly replied, “No you cannot be a guest, son. In this world there are only 2 guests Youth and Wealth both are temporary and do not stay even if you plead with them a million times, and hence can only they be called as guests.”

WHO ARE YOU? Thirsty but now quite intrigued with the profoundness of this old lady, Kalidasa said, “I am a TOLERANT Person, mother. 

Now the old lady replied, “You don’t quite look tolerant, young man. 

In this world, only 2 truly know the meaning of Tolerance. 

Bhoomi (Earth) and Tree. How much ever you stamp the earth or throw stones at the tree (for the fruits), both continue to nurture us.”

So, WHO ARE YOU?

With unquenched thirst, Kalidasa was increasingly becoming irritable. He said, “Fine then, consider me a Stubborn Person 

The lady smiled and said, “No my child, you are not that stubborn.

There are only 2 truly stubborn personalities *our nails and our hair. We keep cutting them non-stop, but they continue to grow.” 

WHO ARE YOU?

Kalidasa had been patient so far, but now in anger, he said, “Alright, I am a Fool”. 

Now the lady gave a wide smile and said, “There are only 2 kinds of fools in this world 

A King who rules without having any capability or knowledge & a Minister* who is a sycophant to such a King and lavishes praises on such a useless king.”

WHO ARE YOU? Kalidasa realised that he had been outsmarted by an old illiterate village woman. Incomplete awe and humility, he fell at the feet of the lady, saying,

“O, mother! How ignorant I was to think that I know myself.

I am ashamed of myself. Pardon my ignorance.

Show mercy, and grant me water, I beg of you. When he touched her feet and then got up, whom did he see?...

Mata Saraswati the Goddess of Learning and Wisdom.    

She said, “Kalidasa, you are wise. But only if you know yourself do you become a true Manushya (human being). 

Your EGO has overshadowed your achievements. 

You are educated, but you are also given to arrogance. 

Hence, I had to come to guide you.

The mark of a true human being is not his knowledge, but his humility.

Your Intellect and your Education are of NO USE IF IT ONLY FEEDS YOUR EGO. 

Saturday, June 11, 2022

RANDOM THOUGHTS 976 TO 990

976. We talk highly about our culture but mostly we follow western culture. But Westerners neither talk about their culture nor follow our culture.

977. Most people are not aware of the real meaning behind marriage. It is mainly for the union of minds between a man and woman.

978. Ideal couples are a rarity, understanding couples a minority, compromising couples a majority and divorcing couples the rest.

979. Life is like a relay race. Real happiness lies when and how successfully we hand over the responsibilities to our children and lead a detached life.

980. Udishtran once said," The greatest wonder is that even after seeing so many people die, people hope they are going to be alive permanently”.

981. If the outlook of a person is good, the world is beautiful for him. If one talks the truth, the world loves him. If his heart is pure, he conquers everyone.

982. One must inquire within himself. If he vouches that he does not find Lust, anger, greed, attachment, pride, and hatred within, he is sure of a seat in heaven.

983. While getting married, most of the boys say to the girl's parents “I will keep your daughter happy for the rest of her life”. Have you ever heard a girl saying this to the boy's parent? 

984. A Philosopher HUSBAND said:- Every uWIFE is a ‘Mistress’ of her Husband…*Miss” for first-year & “Stress” for rest of the life.

985. The position of a husband is just like a Split AC, No matter how loud he is outdoor, He is designed to remain silent indoors.

986. ”To beat around the bush” is an idiom that means to talk a lot instead of getting to the main point you wish to say especially when it is embarrassing.

987. Greediness is the root cause of all problems in the world. One gets only what he deserves and not what he desires.

988. So many unpleasant incidents are happening in this world every minute. They are all acts of God. We should ignore them and consider they will also pass by.

989. A person slapping another person in public is illegal and immoral. For his grievance, either he should go to court or leave it to God to teach him. This is my view.

990. Reading makes a person. Reading books is a good pastime. Books are good companions. Initially, you may feel lethargic. But once you are used to it, you will never stop.  

RANDOM THOUGHTS 1041 TO 1055

1041. While you try to overtake the fellow going ahead, please be careful about the fellow following you. He can overtake you anytime.

1042. In marriage, the man searches for a woman with a good past and the woman searches for a man with a good future.

1043. Be like a child in learning the nuances of life. If the child falls, it does not feel ashamed. It cries for some time and then gets up and walks ahead.

1044. Most of the time our genuine anger with a person gets subdued just because we have to face the person again and again which is unavoidable.

1045. If you feel sleepy during the daytime, that means your body is weak. If you do not get sleep during the night that means, your mind is weak.

1046. Before going to bed, we set the alarm on the clock every day. It shows how much we are sure of waking up the next morning. That is confidence.

1047. Who does not know the difference between salt and sugar is a saint. Who knows is a human. Who knows but does not reveal is the husband.

1048. If you keep mango leaves at the entrance of the house, it is auspicious. If you keep neem leaves it is inauspicious. What a great idea !!!

1049. I don't prefer to travel by AC sleeper on the train. Common bed, no fresh air, fire accident, bad smell and high fare are the reasons. So I prefer non-A/C.

1050. They were happily married for 50 years. When asked for the secret of their success, they said "It helps sometimes to be a little deaf"

1051. What life is this?  Terribly boring. Same routine, same food, same dress, same place, same people and same WIFE !!!

1052. Actually, there is no earning on our fixed deposit since the rate of interest (5%) and cost of inflation (6%) is almost the same.

1053. In facing any problem, if you are mentally prepared to face the worst that will happen, then the problem will become insignificant to you.

1054. God says, "I shall not reside in any house where I always hear the people crying, scheming and shouting instead of praying"

1055. A man is expected to know the last seven generations of his family. If not feasible, at least he should know the last three generations including his parents. 

Saturday, May 7, 2022

பிஸிபேலா பாத்

பிஸிபேலா பாத்.[ 4 பேருக்கு ]

தேவையான பொருட்கள் :

பச்சரிசி  200  கிராம்,

துவரம் பருப்பு  100  கிராம்,

கடுகு  1  ஸ்பூன் 

புளி  100  கிராம் 

கடலப்பருப்பு  1 டேபிள் ஸ்பூன்,

தனியா 1 + 1/2 டேபிள் ஸ்பூன்,

பெருங்காயம் 1  டேபிள் ஸ்பூன்,

மிளகாய் வத்தல் 10 

தேங்காய் ஒரு மூடி,

வெந்தயம் 1 /2 டி ஸ்பூன் ,

கறிவேப்பிலை 

பட்டை 1 , லவங்கம் 4 

தேவையான காய்கறிகள் [நான் சேர்ப்பதில்லை]

1 . முதலில் அரிசி, து.பருப்பு இரண்டையும் கலந்து, நன்கு களைந்து, குக்கரில் குழைய வேக வைக்கவும்.

2 . பிறகு ஒரு கடாயில், ஒரு தேக்கரண்டி தேங்காய் எண்ணை அல்லது நல்ல எண்ணை விட்டு, எண்ணை காய்ந்ததும், கடுகு போட்டு அது வெடித்ததும், வெந்தயம், பெருங்காயம், பட்டை, லவங்கம்,க.பருப்பு, தனியா,மி.வத்தல், முதலியவற்றை போட்டு, சிவக்க வறுக்கவும். அது ஆறினவுடன் [ தண்ணீர் விடாமல் ] நைசாக மிக்ஸியில் அரைக்கவும்.

3 . பிறகு அடுப்பில் ஒரு கெட்டியான பாத்திரத்தை வைத்து அதில் தேவைக்கேற்ப புளிக்கரைசலை விடவும். அதில் உப்பு, மஞ்சள் பொடி, போட்டு கொதிக்க விடவும். அடுப்பை சிம்மில் வைக்கவும். பிறகு அரைத்த பொடியை போட்டு நன்கு கொதிக்க விடவும். சிறிது கெட்டியானதும் இறக்கி விடவும்.

4 . பிறகு சாதத்தை நன்கு மசித்து, அதில் போட்டு நன்கு கிளறவும்.பிறகு ஒரு கரண்டி நெய், ஒண்ணறை கரண்டி நல்ல எண்ணையை, லேசாக சுட்டவுடன், சாதத்தில் கொட்டிக் கிளறவும். பிறகு கடாயில் சிறிது தேங்காய் எண்ணையை  காய வைத்து தேங்காய் துருவலை சிவக்க வறுத்து சாதத்தில் கொட்டி கறிவேப்பிலை போட்டு கிளறிவிடவும். 

Tuesday, May 3, 2022

RANDOM THOUGHTS 961 TO 975

961. ”To beat around the bush” is an idiom that means to talk a lot instead of getting to the main point you wish to say especially when it is embarrassing.

962. An atheist starts believing in God, when everything has gone beyond his control and when he is saved from a great misfortune at the last moment.

963. Most of my articles are narrations of incidents in my life and snippets of my imagination. Articles may be a bit longer but will be interesting and useful.

964. We talk highly about our culture but mostly we follow western culture. But Westerners neither talk about their culture nor follow our culture.

965. Most people are not aware of the real meaning behind marriage. It is mainly for the union of minds between a man and woman.

966. Ideal couples are a rarity, understanding couples a minority, compromising couples a majority and divorcing couples the rest.

967. Life is like a relay race. Real happiness lies when and how successfully we hand over the responsibilities to our children and lead a detached life.

968. Udishtran once said," The greatest wonder is that even after seeing so many people die, people hope they are going to be alive permanently”.

969. If the outlook of a person is good, the world is beautiful for him. If one talks the truth, the world loves him. If his heart is pure, he conquers everyone.

970. One must inquire within himself. If he vouches that he does not find Lust, anger, greed, attachment, pride, and hatred within, he is sure of a seat in heaven.

971. While getting married, most of the boys say to the girl's parents “I will keep your daughter happy for the rest of her life”. Have you ever heard a girl saying this to the boy's parent? 

972. A Philosopher HUSBAND said:- Every uWIFE is a ‘Mistress’ of her Husband…*Miss” for first-year & “Stress” for rest of the life.

973. The position of a husband is just like a Split AC, No matter how loud he is outdoor, He is designed to remain silent indoors.

974. ”To beat around the bush” is an idiom that means to talk a lot instead of getting to the main point you wish to say especially when it is embarrassing.

975. Greediness is the root cause of all problems in the world. One gets only what he deserves and not what he desires.