மனதில் தோன்றிய எண்ணங்கள் 1321 TO 1335

1321. பெண்கள் இரவில் தனியாக சாலையில் நிற்க நேர்ந்தால் 1091 அல்லது 7837018555 எண்ணை அழைக்ககவும். போலீஸ் உங்களை வீட்டில்  பத்திரமாக விடும்.

1322. அழகிய பெண் மானைப் போன்றவளே, இளமைப் பார்வையும் நாணமும் உடையவளே, இயற்கையிலேயே அழகான உனக்குப் பொருத்தமற்ற அணிகலன்களை அணிவது ஏனோ?

1323. "வீட்டுக்காரம்மாள் அந்த தெய்வம் போல தானே. அது கோயில் தெய்வம், இது குடும்ப தெய்வம். அங்கேயும், இங்கேயும், சரணாகதியே"  சரிதானே ஐயா?

1324. கட்டுபாடான வாழ்வுக்கு, கட்டுபாடான உணவு மகா அவசியம் என்பதை சித்தர்கள் வலியுறுத்தினர், ரிஷிகளும் ஞானிகளும் அப்படித்தான் வாழ்ந்தனர்.

1325. மனைவி அமைவது இறைவன் கொடுத்த வரம். கற்பு நெறி உள்ள பெண் ஒருவனுக்கு மனைவியாக வாய்த்தால் அதை விட சிறந்த பெருமை அவனுக்கு வேறில்லை. 

1326. இரக்க குணம் பொருந்தி, தன் கணவனின் வருவாய்க்கு ஏற்றவாறு செலவு செய்து இல்லற வாழ்க்கையை செம்மையாக நடத்துபவளே உண்மையான மனைவி ஆவாள்.

1327. ஒரு தந்தையின் இறுதிக்காலங்களில் அவருடைய சில எண்ணங்கள், விருப்பங்கள், எதிர்பார்ப்புகள் மகனால் உணரப்படாத நேரங்கள் அவருக்கு மரண வேதனையே!.

1328. தான் கற்றது கைமண் அளவு, கல்லாதது உலகளவு என்பவர் சிலர். தான் கற்றது உலகளவு, கல்லாதது கைமண் அளவு  என்பவர் பலர். காலம் மாறிப் போச்சு.

1329. தாய், சகோதரி, மனைவி, மகள், மருமகள் இவர்களில் யார்   வாழ்க்கைக்கு மிகவும் முக்கியம் என்று உங்களால் வரிசைப் படுத்திக் கூற முடியுமா?

1330. மனதைத் தொடுகிறது: "உன் கண்ணில் நீர் வழிந்தால் என் நெஞ்சில் உதிரம் கொட்டுதடி. என் கண்ணில் பாவையன்றோ கண்ணம்மா, என் உயிர் நின்னதன்றோ"

1331. மனதைத் தொடுகிறது: இல்லை என்போர் இருக்கையிலே, இருப்பவர்கள் இல்லை என்றால், மடி நிறைய பொருள் இருக்கும், மனம் நிறைய இருள் இருக்கும்.

1332. மனதைத் தொடுகிறது: விலைக்கு மேலே விலை வைத்தாலும் மனிதன் விலை என்ன? உயிர் விட்டு விட்டால், உடல் சுட்டு  விட்டால் அதில் அடுத்த கதை என்ன?

1333. மனதைத் தொடுகிறது: எங்கே வாழ்க்கை தொடங்கும்? எங்கே எவ்விதம் முடியும்? இதுதான் பாதை, இதுதான் பயணம் என்பது யாருக்கும் தெரியாது.

1334. மனதைத் தொடுகிறது: உயர்ந்த இடத்தில் இருக்கும் போது உலகம் உன்னை மதிக்கும். உன் நிலைமை கொஞ்சம் இறங்கி வந்தால் உன் நிழலும் கூட மிதிக்கும்.

1335. மகிழ்ச்சியைத் தேடி துரத்துவது அல்ல வாழ்க்கை. அதை தன்னம்பிக்கையுடன் அமைதியாய் ரசிக்கும்போது மகிழ்ச்சி தானே வந்து சேர்ந்துவிடும்!

PAKODA AS SIDE DISH

In the late 1960s, when I was a bachelor, I was residing near Pondy bazaar in T.Nagar, Chennai. I was having night dinner in the hotels mainly in Geetha cafe in Pondy bazaar. It was an unlimited meal for Re.1. If I bought tickets, then 30 tickets cost Rs.25. I used to buy one ticket book every month.

Daily at 7 PM, they put up a blackboard outside the hotel mentioning the items for the dinner. If it was to my liking, I would enter. Otherwise, I would go to another hotel until I finally settle in a hotel. Sometimes, for obvious reasons, I had to dine at Geetha cafe using the tickets.

Mr. Jayaraman was a regular and he used to come at the same time when I came. Sometimes, he sat beside me and we became friends. Later I came to know that he was my close friend's uncle. He was working in Sundaram Clayton and he was a great fan of Liz Taylor. 

I did not tell him I liked Gina Lollobrigida. He used to buy Pakoda regularly for a side dish. It was 25 paise for 100 grams. He used to give me a few pieces even if I rejected it for I did not want to get into a habit.

Slowly, I was caught in the vicious cycle. To reciprocate his gesture, I started buying on alternate days. It was wonderful to have pakoda as a side dish for a meal. That habit remained with me until I got married. After marriage, I left the habit with great difficulty as my wife cooked wonderful side dishes.

N.B. I came to know that Mr. Jayaraman has recently died. May his soul rest in peace.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 601 TO 615

601. To know about a subject matter is knowledge. To distinguish whether it is right or wrong, good or bad, needed or not is wisdom.

602. The affection shown to a woman is called love, to a man is friendship, to a suffering person is kindness and to Almighty is bhakti.

603. According to Indian philosophy, the husband and wife are considered to be the two wheels of the same chariot which is called LIFE

604. In Hindu philosophy, when the couple performs household affairs which are Bhog (enjoyment) the wife stands left to the husband.

605. In Hindu philosophy, when the couple performs Dharmkarya and Puja which are called Yogh, the wife stands right to the husband.

606. In Hindu philosophy, while doing Yogh [auspicious] wife is right to the husband and while doing Bhog[inauspicious] she is on the left.

607. A few months back, I visited a close relative. At dinner time, the housewife placed 5 big silver plates for 5 people. How nice?

608. Silver is used for cutlery and utensils. It has antibacterial properties. It is healthy and prevents disease-causing bacteria.

609. If a person is successful in education and employment by sincere means, other people should emulate him instead of denouncing him.

610. People will throw a stone only on the fruit-bearing tree. It is natural there will always be opposition to a particular community.

611. I find many people are still cooking in Aluminium vessels even after becoming economically sound. It is not at all good for health

612. I am using the "Filcafe" coffee/tea maker. It is good and saves money. Oriental Enterprises, Phone 72990 29700 Mambalam, Chennai.

613. When I write something personal, some may feel apprehensive. It is just for motivation. I am an old soul and nothing to worry about.

614. All my snippets are written at the spur of the moment when random thoughts occur to me and when my mind is idle and not engaged.

615. I see only classical movies with subtitles. My preference is 1. Korean 2. Japanese 3. Russian 4. Turkey 5. Malayalam 6. Bengali.

RANDOM THOUGHTS 586 TO 600

586. In case women get stranded during the night, they can call 1091 or 7837018555. The police will take them safely to their homes.

587. The irony of our culture is that people are constantly telling other people to go to hell but no one tells them to go to heaven.

588. When we grieve the death of a person, we think of all the things we did not do for our beloved one and not the things we had done.

589.  A man cannot perform his rituals without the presence of his wife by his side. Such is the status given to women in our culture.

590. While performing rituals, the wife should stand on his right for auspicious occasions and on his left on inauspicious occasions.

591. When performing rituals, sacred thread should be on his right for auspicious occasions and on his left for inauspicious occasions.

592. Human feelings are universal. It does not vary because of religion, caste, community or creed. Everyone feels in the same way. OMG

593. I am deaf. I use a hearing aid. Do you know, I can stop anyone from talking. But no one can stop me from talking. Can you guess how?

594. Hearing loss is a blessing in disguise. One will never get angry, emotional or sensitive. He will experience silence everywhere.

595. To have some physical defect is God's wish [Karma]. One should not worry too much about it. He should try to make humor out of it.

596. When I was not financially sound, I bought the cheapest vegetable even if I had to take the same vegetable for any number of days.

597. No one on earth can dispute a statement if it is made in first person singular ie 'I' or 'in my opinion'. It is a personal view.

598. It is heartening to see the Indians residing in an area in US, visiting mutually and dining together. Do we follow this in India?

599. Snowfall has started in the US. It is a beautiful sight. Coconut flakes are falling everywhere for a few inches. It will be severe later today.

600. Today, I checked the snowflakes fallen from the sky. It looks like foam and feels like stone salt. Salt will be used to dissolve it.

ANGER

Once, Shri Adhi Sankara was on his way seeking Biksha. He stood before a house and called "Bavathi Bikshaan Dhehi" meaning please give me alms.

A lady from the house came out and shouted at him. She said "You look hale and healthy. Why do you take alms? Why can't you work and earn?"

Adhi Sankara stood his ground without saying a word in reply. The lady accused him further with derogatory words with anger. 

Even then Sankara stood calmly. When the lady asked him "Don't you get what I say? Don't you have any brain? Don't you hear my words? Are you deaf?

Adhi Sankara told her, Mother, only if I am willing to receive, you can give anything to me. When I am not willing to receive, how can you give me? I am not receiving even your anger" Then he proceeded on his way to the next house.

THE INVITATION

Many years back, when I was young, a very close relative of my wife, fixed the wedding of his daughter. He sent me an invitation. But he failed to send the invitation to my mother. I was not happy. I decided not to attend the wedding. 

Meanwhile, my wife had talked to him over the phone and on her request, he sent an invitation to my mother. I sent my wife to the wedding but I did not attend. I firmly believe that an invitation is an honour and the elders in the family should be respected.

Whenever I send an invitation to a relative, I always mention the name of the elder person in the family or I send a separate invitation for the elder if he is a close relative. In the case of friends, we may or may not follow this rule.

Only important and close people should be invited. Everyone is not a relative or friend. Only people with blood relations are relatives and only people in whose family we have dined mutually are our friends. 

When invitees are reduced, the expenditure proportionately comes down. When I conduct a function in my house, I always see that the income is more than the expenditure and the gifts are 70% of the expense. I have a thumb-rule for finalizing the invitees. 

1. My parents and in-laws. 
2. Living sambandhis of parents.
3. My sambandhis. 
4. My brothers and sisters
5. Wife's brothers and sisters
6. Their married children.
7. Close friends. 
8. Neighbours. 

[friends and neighbours are invited only for the wedding day]

RANDOM THOUGHTS 571 TO 585

571. When a person helps another wholeheartedly who is happier? The person who extended the help should feel happier than the receiver.

572. I can only sympathize with people who keep their cellphones glued to their ears all the time without knowing its repercussions.

573. Why people have a peculiar tendency to show more of their love towards a person at the time of the departure than during the stay?

574. People use WhatsApp because it is free. Even the rich want it free. Mental balance is affected to go through hundreds of messages.

575. In every technological development, there are both good and bad effects. The human mind is attracted to the bad and not the good.

576. To err is human. To repent is great. The mind should come to normal. No point in crying over the spilt milk. It is a waste of energy.

577. Friend, take a book, just read two pages a day for a month. You will see the result. Then you cannot live without a book. I swear.

578. Selecting a DIL is more difficult than a SIL. If she is a good DIL, she is more than a daughter as she is quite new to your family.

579. When I suffered from Shingles, it was my DIL who applied medicines in my eyes every half an hour, 30 times a day, for 90 days.

580. All my deposits, renewal, remittance, withdrawal, taxes, insurance, medicines, food are taken care of by my DIL. What else I need.

581. My entire family knows my plus and minus. I keep no secrets. I am an open book. My mind gets relaxed and my confidence develops.

582. I adore my children.They worship me.We are east and west but not cat and mouse.We have to carry on till the end.It is God's wish!!

583. When I conduct a function in my house, I always see that the income is more than the expense and the gifts are 70% of the expense.

584. You are living with your son's family. His friend, also known to you, has invited him to his birthday party. Will you go or not?

585. The biological clock in our body is designed to our activities. If we do not sleep or wake up on time we will suffer from Insomnia.