A LETTER FROM FATHER TO SON.

Pandit Late Sri. Jawaharlal Nehru's letters to his daughter, when he was in prison, were famous. They were published under the caption "Letters from father to daughter". 

I am not so famous like him. But I am also a father. I also write letters to my children. This letter was written by me from Chennai on 26th June 2006 to my son at Hyderabad when he was 26. It is self-explanatory.

My dear son,

After long deliberations, I am writing this letter to you. Everyone has to live his life. No one can escape. No outside guidance will help. He is drawn towards his fate. However, as a father, I have some duty towards you. I will not tell you what to do and what not. I can only guide you. You have to make the decision, lead your life and face the consequences. You have passed your boyhood and you have become an adult, educated, employed making your own money. 

You are now getting ready to be married which is the second stage in everyone's life. The third stage comes when you retire. So, for the second stage which is tougher than the first stage, one has to be mentally, physically and emotionally ready to lead a peaceful and harmonious life. Happiness is not anywhere but it is within you. It depends on how you look at it, how you take it and what your attitude is. 

Coming back to the subject, you have to get ready for married life. Though I am confident you know a good part of it, I feel I must tell you something important. The girl, you are going to choose [not us] may be rich/poor, beautiful/normal, educated/not educated, city/rural, employed/unemployed, and emotional/intellectual. A rich, beautiful, educated and employed girl may not prefer us. You will have to choose the right girl suitable for you.

A person who does not know his weaknesses is not strong enough to face life. We desire so many things but we get only what we deserve. So if a person has the right attitude, to accept what comes in as his destiny, then he lives peacefully. I do not recommend anyone for you. You have to decide. An employed girl can help in building up assets. There are many plus and minus with employed as well as unemployed girls. Now girls are well educated and well employed. They prefer boys according to their education and employment. They are only willing to marry boys who will suit their requirement and they are not willing to adjust to suit other's needs. 

Your life is going to be much more difficult than mine for various reasons. Hence I am worried about you. Traditional girls who do not go for jobs, who are interested in household work, to look after parents, husband and children are rare. You need the help of the parent or in-laws to send the girl for a job. No girl would prefer to leave a job after 2 or 3 years after tasting the pleasures of it. 

The parents are already tired of their living and they do not have the strength to take care of the children's family. That was the reason why they married unemployed girls in their life. We are planning to let you [both] have an independent life so that you have the freedom and good understanding. We know when to come and join you. Therefore, calmly weigh all the pros and consequences and take a wise decision.

Wishing you the best in your life.

Yours loving father,

N.B. In my opinion, a good looking, graduate, unemployed, middle class girl from the rural may be suitable for you.

I HAVE A DOUBT !!!!

IN MAHABHARATA

1. King Chandanu was the emperor of the Kuru dynasty.

2. His son Bhishma relinquished kingdom and wowed not to marry.

3. The king married fisherwoman Sathyavathi.

4. Sathyavathi had an illegitimate son Dvypayanar prior to the marriage.

5. After marriage, she had two sons, Chithrangathan and Vichitraveeriyan.

6. Bhishma also married them to Ambikai and Ambalikai respectively.

7. Bhishma crowned the eldest son Chitrangathan after Chandanu.

8. Chitrangathan died due to ill-health and Bhishma crowned his younger brother next.

9. Vichitraveeriyan also died and both of them did not have any children.

10. To get heirs to the throne, Sathyavathi persuaded the widows to copulate with Dvypayanar.

11. Drudharashtran to Ambikai, Pandu to Ambalikai and Viduran to a maid were born.

12. The eldest son Drudharashtran was blind and hence relinquished the throne to Pandu.

13. Later, Pandu gave back the kingdom to Druharashtran, went to the forest and died.

14. Drudharashtran's wife Kanthari conceived and delivered a huge ball made of flesh.

15. Dvypayanar converted it into 100 sons and 1 daughter. Duryodhana was the eldest.

16. Pandu's wives Kunthi and Mathri got six illegitimate children thro celestial gods. Karna was the eldest.

17. Drudarashtran, the eldest, was alive and he was the King.

18. As per tradition, his eldest son Duruyodana should be crowned.

19. With elder brother Karna alive, Yudishtran has no right to claim for the kingdom.

20. Why Duruyodhanan was denied his rightful right to the kingdom leading to a great war?

Random thoughts 3456 to 3470.

3456. The first to apologise is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. And the first to forget is the happiest.

3457. You can go up in your life. Not for the people to look at you with awe but for you to look at the people with love and care.

3458. We don’t see who’s with us when everything goes well. We will see when life gets tough, when we are struggling, sick, or jobless.

3459. The one who doesn’t enjoy music is half dead. The one who does not enjoy jokes is completely dead.

3460. “Liter" is the spelling used in the USA while "litre" is used in the United Kingdom and most other English-speaking countries.

3461. The main problem in communication is that we don’t listen to understand what the other person says but we listen to reply.

3462. When we take important decisions, our mind must be calm to think clearer. An agitated mind can never think properly.

3463. He has Apple laptop, Apple iPhone, Apple Watch, Apple Pay, Apple TV, Apple iMac and Apple iPad. But he doesn’t like apples. Hahaha.

3464. If a person avoids sugar after 12 PM for 2 weeks he will enjoy better sleep, control weight, improve digestion, reduce bloating, and help clear up skin.

3465. There are two ways of becoming rich. 1. By acquiring property. 2. By desiring less. N.B: However one must spend less and save more.

3466. In our family, I don’t interfere in other’s matters. They don’t interfere in my matters. For common matters, we discuss and decide.

3467. Fasting initiates autophagy, a process that clears damaged cells with new cells, slows aging and protects against illness.

3468. It is not the number of books that one has read. It is how much he has implemented in life. Then reading is meaningless.

3469. Whenever I talk to a lady, I always say a few words in appreciation of her children. I will then get her special attention.

3470. Some people are lethargic and indisciplined. People come forward to help them. But they don’t help the well disciplined.

THE INVITATION.

An invitation is different from information. I believe that an invitation is an honour extended to a close person. 

Whenever I send an invitation, I always mention the name of the elder person in the family or I send a separate invitation for him. In the case of friends, we may or may not follow this rule.

Only important and close people should be invited. Everyone is not a relative or friend. Only people with blood relations are relatives and only people in whose family we have dined mutually are our friends. 

When invitees are reduced, the expenditure proportionately comes down. When I conduct a function in my house, I see that the gifts are 70% of the expense. I have a thumb-rule for finalizing the invitees. 

1. My parents and in-laws. 

2. Living sambandhis of my parents.

3. My sambandhis. 

4. My brothers and sisters.

5. My Wife's brothers and sisters

6. Their married children.

7. Close friends. 

8. Neighbours. 

[friends and neighbours are invited only for the wedding day]

ANGER !!!

Once, Shri Adhi Sankara was on his way seeking Biksha. He stood before a house and called "Bavathi Bikshaan Dhehi" meaning please give me alms.

A lady from the house came out and shouted at him. She said "You look hale and healthy. Why do you take alms? Why can't you work and earn?"

Adhi Sankara stood his ground without saying a word in reply. The lady accused him further with derogatory words with anger. 

Even then Sankara stood calmly. When the lady asked him "Don't you get what I say? Don't you have any brain? Don't you hear my words? Are you deaf?

Adhi Sankara told her, Mother, only if I am willing to receive, you can give anything to me. When I am not willing to receive, how can you give me? I am not receiving even your anger" Then he proceeded on his way to the next house.

Random thoughts 3441 to 3455.

3441. At age 20, we worry what others think of us. At 40, we don’t care what they think of us. At 60, we find that they don’t think of us.

3442. People want to live a long life. But they don’t want to become old. How is that possible? There is no way to make it.

3443. Birthdays are good for celebration. Statistics show that the people who celebrate the most birthdays live the longest.

             

3444. Grandchildren don’t make a man feel old. Actually, it is the grandmother who he has married makes him feel old.

3445. Gold and Silver are wrapped in pink paper by jewellers as they appear to shine more and they are more attractive against pink background.

3446. “Everyone" refers to a group collectively. “Each one" refers to the individuals within the group, making it closer to "each".

3447. Whenever you go to a shop to buy a dress for yourself, the most liked dress happens to be of different size.

3448. I like low-budget, realistic movies dealing in social issues in a family setting without any popular actors.

3449. Just now I saw a man taking 5 children on his bike. He didn’t listen to my pleas. Who will take responsibility if anything happens to them?

3450. God doesn’t have the time to advise everyone personally. He sends it through well-wishers. Taking it or leaving it depends on one’s fate.

3451. The Guinness World Record for the longest personal name belongs to Laurence Watkins. His name comprises 2,253 unique words.

3452. To love is for self gratification. Unconditional love is a rarity. Conditional love is majority. Life without love is absurdity.

3453. Understanding yourself is Power. Loving yourself is Freedom. Forgiving yourself is Peace. Being yourself is Bliss.

3454. When we see a movie of a popular actor, we will see only the actor and not the story. It’s the opposite if it is a new actor.

3455. When they were classmates they compared their school mark sheets. Now as seniors they compare their medical shon BP and sugar.

REVERSE OSMOSIS vs BOILING ?

RO (Reverse Osmosis) purification is generally better than boiling for daily drinking water because it removes dissolved contaminants, heavy metals (like lead and mercury), chemicals, and microorganisms, whereas boiling only kills bacteria. RO provides safer, better-tasting water, while boiling merely disinfects without reducing inorganic impurities. 

RO (Reverse Osmosis) Purification

• Effectiveness: Removes up to 99.9% of contaminants, including bacteria, viruses, heavy metals, and chemicals.
• Best for: High Total Dissolved Solids (TDS) in water, hard water, or water with chemical contaminants.
• Convenience: Fast, automatic, and provides immediate access to potable water.
• Disadvantages: Removes beneficial minerals, can be expensive, and requires regular maintenance. 

Boiling Water

• Effectiveness: Highly effective at killing bacteria, viruses, and parasites.
• Best for: Emergency scenarios, or when biological contamination (germs) is the only concern.
• Convenience: Time-consuming and requires manual effort.
• Disadvantages: Does not remove chemicals, heavy metals, or dissolved solids; it actually increases the concentration of impurities as water evaporates. 

Conclusion

For modern tap water which often contains chemical impurities, lead, and high TDS, RO is the superior choice. However, if you only have access to water with potential bacterial contamination and no filtration system, boiling is an excellent disinfectant.

Source: Google.

RICE BRAN OIL vs GROUND NUT OIL?

Rice bran oil and groundnut oil are both excellent high-smoke-point options for Indian cooking, with rice bran offering superior health benefits (oryzanol, neutral taste) and groundnut oil offering a traditional nutty flavor. Rice bran oil is ideal for heart health and lighter frying, while groundnut is best for flavor-intensive dishes. 

Rice Bran Oil:

• Best For: Deep frying, stir-frying, and general daily cooking.
• Health Benefits: High in antioxidants, Vitamin E, and contains oryzanol, which helps lower bad cholesterol (LDL) and promote good cholesterol (HDL).
• Taste/Texture: Neutral, light, and less sticky, resulting in less oil absorption in food.
• Disadvantage: Can have a shorter shelf life and requires high-quality extraction. 

Groundnut Oil (Peanut Oil):

• Best For: Deep frying, sautéing, and Indian cuisine requiring a robust, nutty flavor.
• Health Benefits: High in monounsaturated fats (heart-healthy) and vitamin E.
• Taste/Texture: Distinct nutty taste (especially cold-pressed).
• Disadvantage: Can feel heavy if reused often; potential allergens. 

Verdict:

Both have high smoke points (>200∘C or 400∘F) suited for high-heat, but Rice Bran Oil is generally considered more heart-healthy and modern, while Groundnut Oil is favoured for its traditional taste.

Source: Google.